musicguy Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 A lot of you have read my story about my relationship, well, she came to my workplace and dumped me. She dumped me because she still loves her ex-boyfriend. She cried a lot and was all depressed cuz she had to choose between me (the nice guy who treats her and her kids good) and the other guy. This always seems to happen when it comes to girls I like. I'm gonna miss everything about her and her kids. Link to comment
bigheart09 Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 musicguy, I am sorry to hear this! Why did she choose the other guy? Link to comment
musicguy Posted January 5, 2007 Author Share Posted January 5, 2007 I don't know why she chose him. She even told him about me and how good I treat her and how happy I make her Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 You were being nice but not setting boundaries when it came to your concers about her child abuse (i.e. child neglect), illegal drug use and the other issues. She doesn't need a nice guy now - she needs a man who will tell her "I can't be with you right now because you have to work on yourself and your parenting but I will be a supportive friend if and when you decide to help yourself." Link to comment
bigheart09 Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 I might be wrong, but I think you have the same "savior" complex like I do. I feel like I can be the one to save my bf, even though I know he is the only one who can fix himself. Am I right? Link to comment
musicguy Posted January 5, 2007 Author Share Posted January 5, 2007 You were being nice but not setting boundaries when it came to your concers about her child abuse (i.e. child neglect), illegal drug use and the other issues. She doesn't need a nice guy now - she needs a man who will tell her "I can't be with you right now because you have to work on yourself and your parenting but I will be a supportive friend if and when you decide to help yourself." okay, true, but she's with a guy who treats her like crap Link to comment
musicguy Posted January 5, 2007 Author Share Posted January 5, 2007 I might be wrong, but I think you have the same "savior" complex like I do. I feel like I can be the one to save my bf, even though I know he is the only one who can fix himself. Am I right? I have a huge heart for people I care about a lot. But I can't change her feelings for the other guy, oh well, her loss Link to comment
musicguy Posted January 5, 2007 Author Share Posted January 5, 2007 I treated her and her kids good. I showed her and told her how I felt about her and even did nice things for her Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 I treated her and her kids good. I showed her and told her how I felt about her and even did nice things for her Did you talk to her about going into drug rehab? Tell her you were going to call child protective services if she didn't stop neglecting her children? Suggest that it was too early for you to be spending time with her kids since they could get attached to you? I am not saying you are a bad person but question your behavior in this case. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 okay, true, but she's with a guy who treats her like crap Yes, and what does that say about her and how she defines "love" and her level of self-esteem? Link to comment
musicguy Posted January 5, 2007 Author Share Posted January 5, 2007 Did you talk to her about going into drug rehab? Tell her you were going to call child protective services if she didn't stop neglecting her children? Suggest that it was too early for you to be spending time with her kids since they could get attached to you? I am not saying you are a bad person but question your behavior in this case. Yup, I told her all of those things Link to comment
poloplayer Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 Yes, and what does that say about her and how she defines "love" and her level of self-esteem? BINGO! We have a winner... Link to comment
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