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I haven't posted on here in a while, but I'm looking for a little insight or even just someone else's thoughts; because this situation is just about tormenting me.


So I've been interested in this guy for about a year. It's a long story, but I basically spent 4 months in person with him at a place where we met. We didn't talk personally too much, but when we did, we clicked. He moved a little bit farther away for a different job, so I didn't see him. But we had connected and kept in contact through email.


This was last December.


So we kept in touch through email for an entire year when I decided to go visit him; he lives a few hours drive away.


So I went to see him about 2 weeks ago, and it was great. I spent 5 days with him and we had a really nice time. And it wasn't just me who thought this; he thought it as well, because he told me after I got home.


We click, we really do. And he knows I'm not a big fan of using the phone, and I know he isn't either, and since we had communicated through email for a little over a year now, it's just what we do. So all contact since I got back home was through email. He had friends coming from out of town to stay with him after I left (he didn't purposely keep them away until I left, it just worked out like that). So I knew he was busy with them. He sent me only one regular lengthed email in the week + few days that I've been home.


He usually sends one every other night (sometimes longer, but not too often). It's not hard to figure out that I'm attached to him. The distance thing seems to be the biggest factor in my mind; there's a bit of an age gap too (8 years).

I knew he was a little interested after constant contact through email, but when I went and visited him, I seemed to spark his interest in me a lot more. In the one decent-lengthed email he sent me since I got home included a paragraph of real sentimental feelings (which he usually never expresses to anyone) for me. It was very sweet and touching.


But it's been 3 days and still, no email. I'm wondering if it is because I mirrored those sentimental feelings (not overexpressed or anything, in my opinion. I just basically said the same thing... how he was nice and fun and easy to be around and how I really enjoyed my time spent with him).


I'm just wondering why he seems to be distancing himself. It's disheartening and I can't seem to work it out. Any help would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!


Chicago Gal

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As someone who has been involved in an email relationship I can tell you don't panic if you haven't heard from him. It is hard to sustain emailing every day. After some time, it simmers down. Love can blossom via email and it doesn't mean there has to be contact every day. Don't panic. Sometimes declarations scare people for a while so they need to back off. If the feelings are true, the person comes back. Just don't expect that there will be emails every day forever. As the relationship builds and there is more comfort, that could get reduced because, after, all, you both have lives to lead.

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