What does she think about our relationship?

[dansmith2373]

I developed feelings for a female co-worker. She recently broke up with a long-term boyfriend (with him for about 8 months) and I told her how I felt. She said she was not ready for a relationship, but thought it could be a possibility down the road. I am glad I got that off my chest. However, I am still puzzled as to what she thinks of me. We remain close emotionally, there is some light touching, etc. However, she does not seem to want to do much with me outside of work. She rarely talked about her boyfriend (or potentials), she never talks about girls with me (e.g. you should go out with someone), She claimed that she really never thought (positive or negative) about a further relationship between the two of us, even though people have told us to our face we are like husband/wife. She rarely complements me, but never says kiss of death things like "you're just a good friend" or "you are like a brother" I know she cares deeply for me, but she has not expressed it. Any thoughts?

[Northalius]

She recently broke up with a long-term boyfriend (with him for about 8 months) and I told her how I felt. She said she was not ready for a relationship

 

Those're the key sentences right there.

 

Personally, I'd keep it simple: Just sit back and wait. Don't get hung up over it too soon, or it'll eat your mind away before the time is right.

 

Understand that feelings do not get washed away over night when someone has been in another [long term, especially] relationship recently. It takes time for them to get over their ex. If you rush into this relationship, you might run into her feelings for her past boyfriend / husband, and it'll hurt you even more if you're starting to be attached to her.

 

She said the right thing: "I'm not ready for a relationship"

 

That's good! It shows she's being responsible, and not just rushing into another relationship to try and cloud her hurt feelings from her ex.

 

Again, all I'd think of telling you, is to be patient and wait it out until she comes to you, and is ready.

[Mrs Elliott Smith]

I agree with the previous poster... maybe she's just not ready for a relationship.

 

OR...

 

It could be that although she's into you to some degree, she doesn't want to get too involved with you because you're her co-worker! Dating coworkers, from what I've heard, is not a desirable thing to do...