this sucks Posted December 28, 2006 Share Posted December 28, 2006 I’ve been married for nearly 3 years now, and for most of that time, I’ve been totally miserable. I had reservations about getting married to her in the first place (i thought she’d change her ways if I aksed her to marry me) and I wanted to pull out a couple of days before the wedding but with her falling pregnant shortly before our wedding, I felt it was the right thing to do. Most of my friends don’t like her, my family don’t like her and I just don’t love her anymore, i'm not sure i ever really did. Anyway, we now have 2 small children now, one a couple of months old. I’m sick of my wife’s manipulating and domineering ways and I simply don’t love her. There is no hope of saving the marriage but I’m torn because we have 2 kids. I can’t imagine not coming home to them every day, they are my life. on antoher hand, I’ve fallen in love with a friend of mine and she feels the same way. I adore this woman, she is amazing. I’ve always adored her but now it’s progressed to love. Please don’t judge me for this – my marriage was crap well before we realised we had feelings for each other. I cannot imagine my life without her but like I said, I’m torn about leaving my kids. This woman is my soulmate, she is just such a beautiful person and we’re like 2 peas in a pod and i can really see a future with her. My wife is very likely to put me through hell if I ask for a divocre. She doesn’t know that I’m inlove with someone else, I’m not sure I could put her though that pain and damage her self esteem. The marriage has basically been crumbling since it began. I think she deserves to find someone who can love her the way she dserves. I don’t want my kids to resent me. At the same time, i think if i leave my wife i need to do it while my kids are young enough to not understand what’s going on and while their young enough to adapt. sometimes I think I’d be setting such a bad example for them by staying in a bad marraige. They’ll probably sense it’s bad as they get older. i don’t want them to think it’s ok to stay in a crap relationship when it’s not. But like I said I can’t imagine not seeing them everyday. I’ll always be there for my children no matter what because they’re my 1st priority and i love them to death. a messy divorce is something i don’t want but i don't want to saty with my wife forever or just for the sake of the kids. I’d love to hear from other people who have been in this situation. If I didn’t have 2 small children, I would have left ages ago. What’s the right thing to do? What would you do or what have you done? Link to comment
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