long distance marriage??

[shorty20]

My husband (of about 6 days had to go back to his base yesturday. We won't be together for probably about 2 months. I'm just wondering if anyone has ideas of how to keep things exciting and fresh. We had such a great time while he was home (even though it was only for 5 days) and I need ideas of things I can do for him, send him... or anything else to keep our marriage and our relationship exciting!

[Beec]

I think that when and if he gets home, you will probably have excitement enough. I doubt you will need help once he does. Keeping things fresh, etc. is probably not what I would think you'd need. Keeping your bonds and your emotional attachment strong would be, and I think the biggest things you can do there, are: First, don't be too demanding, make sure you continue your life and have on independent of him, which should not be hard to do; and Second, just do things that let him know you care, and want him.

 

When I used to work under similar circumstances, somethings that worked and were varied: care packages, cookies, stuff like that; letters from her that insinuated things, one guy got a description of his gf preparing to go to bed, including a description of a g-string that she did not even own, and which he promptly asked her to go buy; pictures, just plain old simple letters, anything he would like to read. Whatever.

 

I think your husband and you have been apart a lot, and he still wanted to marry you. Whatever you have been doing to know has kept the bond between you, so don't change too much. I think my biggest warning in that regard is to not get needy.

 

When he gets to see you next, he is probably not going to be able to keep his hands off of you. Don't worry too much about fresh, until he is there more often.

 

Congratulations.

[annie24]

I agree with beec, things will be fresh and exciting because you are newlyweds, so you don't have to worry about that. I would definitely stay in contact with him, every day, so he has something to look forward to. I would definitely send him an e-mail or a phone call or anything once a day, even if you don't have a lot to say, tell him about some funny movie you watched on TV. I'd send a care package pretty often, like at least once every 2 weeks with sweets, games, chapstick, photos of you, maybe a DVD. If you go to the store and find a funny post card, mail that to him.

 

congrats on your marriage! I hope you guys have a long and happy life together!

[Beec]

I agree with beec, things will be fresh and exciting because you are newlyweds, so you don't have to worry about that. I would definitely stay in contact with him, every day, so he has something to look forward to. I would definitely send him an e-mail or a phone call or anything once a day, even if you don't have a lot to say, tell him about some funny movie you watched on TV. I'd send a care package pretty often, like at least once every 2 weeks with sweets, games, chapstick, photos of you, maybe a DVD. If you go to the store and find a funny post card, mail that to him.

 

congrats on your marriage! I hope you guys have a long and happy life together!

 

Great advice from annie24. I would only add a little to it. Make your contact with him as unpredictable as possible. It can and probably should happen each day, but how it happens and when it happens should change. Sometimes call him early in the morning to wake him up, other times, send him an email at noon, other times, do something later.

 

In the same way, change things you send him. If you were first dating, I would tell you to give him things no more than every three weeks on average, and to be unpredictable in what you gave and the intervals. All that sutff mentioned by annie24 is good, but mix it up. If you send him that same things regularly it won't be as good. Different things will keep the care packages themselves fresh.

 

And jsut send them, don't tell him when they are coming.