15 year age gap

[sparkly]

i am just wondering what you all would make of this.i like a man,he's 35 and i'm 20.I never even thought of him as a potential partner until i started to notice how he was acting toward me.but keep in mind as you read this he is an outgoing person but with women can be shy.we had never really spoken as much as we have in the last year.i walk past him and he makes eye contact and looks at me when he thinks i'm not looking.

 

 

on occasion i have caught him doing this and when i have he has looked down and smiled.we have some of the same interests.he used to tease me heaps and he says hello to me when i first see him alot of the time.He always tries to keep the conversation going.Some days he's really outgoing and then others he doesn't even talk to me.when we are talking sometimes i get the impression that he is uncomfortable or nervous because he keeps looking down and around.

 

 

 

and if i haven't seen him for a few weeks he comes up to me and says hello. then other times it seems like he hardly takes his eyes off of me.he remembers everything i tell him,tells me about himself and his friends,laughs at what i say when it's not even funny and can come and stand right next to me.i've fallen madly for him but i don't think that he feels the same.what do you think?he has tried to make plans before but i knocked him back.

[CharlesF]

I think that a relationship with this large of age difference is ok if you just want to have fun. For a long-term relationship, it might be difficult because you are at different point in your lives.

[No, useYOURname]

If he remembers everything you tell him and does all the other things when he is around you, then YES! He likes you. Go make his day. A guy his age might have some skills that guys your age haven't developed yet.

[TxRedheadGuy]

I am in a somewhat opposite situation as you Sparkly. I am a 32 y/o guy who has an attractive 20 y/o coworker that I like. Conversation is good between us most of the time, but I am still a tad nervous when I am around her. Though I like her, I would feel very uncomfortable asking her out or dating her, simply because of what I call the "Perv" factor (I feel a little like a perv dating someone so much younger LOL) . The previous poster does have a point about older guys often having "skills" that guys your age often do not have.

[No, useYOURname]

virtual high-five

 

 

 

even though I'm only 27

[Chazon]

For a long-term relationship, it might be difficult because you are at different point in your lives.

 

I can attest to this. I married a woman that was 15 years older than me. She was 34 and I was 19 at the time. In the beginning it was great, but after 10 years, we were both at totally different points in our life and grew apart. If you are not seriously looking, then have fun - but think long and hard about your long term goals with this person if you desire to take it to the next level.

[addictedblue]

age is just a number. if you were both aged 30 you'd be the same people and like each other for the same reasons. you happen to be younger and him a little older, so what who cares. yeah yeah you're at different points in your life whatever. i say go for it.

[Patchie]

I don't think 15 years is an unreasonable age difference--especially since you're the younger one. Women mature more quickly than men so you're going to be somewhat closer together mentally than a couple where the man was 20 and the woman was 35.

[calmingwind]

I am 11 years older than my male interest.

Culturally, his mother has a problem with that because she wants him to have children.

I am still able to do this. I don't know what will happen.

I really love this guy and he has to decide to be strong to buck his culture.........

[charley]

I think it could definitely be a nice short term relationship (say 5 years or less). It might also workout longterm, maybe, but maybe not. Who knows? Of course, that could also be true of someone your age too.

[sidehop]

My ex and I were 14 years apart. We dated for three years, it only didn't work out because her & I had a personality that were so different we argued over the smallest things. Almost the dumbest things.