Ashleylynn9941 Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 i am 14 and my bf is 16 we have been together since nov.11 we have an amazing realtion ship we have never went more than a day with out talking...except for this week....thats what my problem is we talked a few sentences thursday evening he got on messenger(thats where we talk at)to talk to me 4 a few minutes b4 he had to go to a friends b-day party i asked him if i would talk to him again that night he said u sure will...but i havent talked to him since ive sent him emails offline messages and i get nothing idk what to do or think i love him so much he says he loves me but if he loves me how can he go so long with out talking to me.....we talk about everything our family our friends what we ate for dinner all that night we used to talk hours and hours a night and i had no warning that this was gonna happen the last 2 things he said 2 me was i love u! then he said bye beautiful....can somebody plz tell me if im just freaking out 4 nothing Link to comment
jsx730 Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 You are at the age where you are both starting to bloom socially. It really isn't the time to center your attention in on just one person. I know it's hard not to take something like this to heart because your relationship is this great new thing that you get to experience, but you have to realize that you both have other things going on in your life. At your ages, you just have to take everything in stride, and it's easy to get caught up in the moment and forget to check your email, or sign on messenger, or call and check in with parents/partners. If it's a repeated behavior, where he consistently goes days without talking, then voice your opinion, but you don't want to scare him by pointing out every time he goes a day without calling you. Link to comment
Meow18 Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 Have you tried calling him? Link to comment
Ashleylynn9941 Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 we havent talked on the phone cuz my mom doesnt lt me have cell phone and i know we r young but i dont care about that and ive sent him 1 email and 2 messages Link to comment
Satsuma Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 I think that your getting abit paronoid (not meant to be offensive). Just because he hasnt spoken to you in that amount time doesnt mean hes done something. He does have a social life so dont keep contacting him all the time. Link to comment
Meow18 Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 we havent talked on the phone cuz my mom doesnt lt me have cell phone and i know we r young but i dont care about that and ive sent him 1 email and 2 messages Do you own a house phone? Honestly, it sounds strange that he hasn't spoken to you in the past couple of days and it's really sudden. Is there any way you can try calling him? Link to comment
Ashleylynn9941 Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 i dont have his phone number Link to comment
Ashleylynn9941 Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 i think im being paronoid to but i cant help it Link to comment
Satsuma Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 I know you cant but you have to think that hes just gone out with friends thats it, let him have a good time instead of him having to call you all the time. Link to comment
lil_kaila Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 Wait a sec.... have you ever even met this guy?!?!? You talk about him as if he's your boyfriend and you really love him and everything... but you don't even have his phone number... I don't get it! Edit: Oops! Sorry, I didn't see this thread is in cyber relationships (I clicked on it from the main page) and didn't realise you're only 14! Don't worry! You can ask him why he didn't respond if he comes online again... and if he doesn't then ohwell whatever.... there's plenty of other fish in the sea! Go hang out with your real life friends and have some fun... you're only 14, don't get stuck on one guy you don't even know! (that may sound a little rude, but I think in the long run it will benefit you more if you spend more quality time with your friends, than spending all your spare time online) Link to comment
Ashleylynn9941 Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 y would i have his number if i cant call him Link to comment
Davvvid Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 Do you even know him in person? If it's an online only relationship, I'd be weary about continuing the relationship... Link to comment
Ashleylynn9941 Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 ive never met him like i said we r 14 and 16 we have school and our parents isnt just gonna let us go see eachother we live 9 hours away Link to comment
lil_kaila Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 Have you talked to him on webcam though? Because if you haven't then how do you know he is really 16? It could just as well be some 50 year old perv!!! (and even if you have seen him through a webcam you have to be weary about his motives) And once again, I'm not trying to be rude to you but I hope you realise the dangers of online dating! Link to comment
Ashleylynn9941 Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 i have seen about 20 pics of him Link to comment
jsx730 Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 Maybe he got grounded. But in all seriousness, when your relationship is centered around only ONE channel of comminication (computer), there are going to be gaps in communication. What if his internet went out? What if someone else has been using his computer? What if his parents took away his priviledges? All possibilities... Link to comment
jengh Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 Have you talked to him on webcam though? Because if you haven't then ho do you know he is really 16? It could just as well be some 50 year old perv!!! (and even if you have seen him through a webcam you have to be weary about his motives) And once again, I'm not trying to be rude to you but I hope you realise the dangers of online dating! I am in complete agreement. Your parents are smart for not letting you meet some random (he may not seem random to you, but in the eyes of your parents and other adults, he is random) guy 9 hours away. We aren't saying any of this to be rude or come of as offensive, so I'm sorry that it seems that way, but you're only 14 years old. I thought I was in love when I was 14. I also had a 16 year old boyfriend, though he was in the same school district, we did most of our talking online. Anyways, point being... I lost my virginity to this guy, he turned out to be a complete and I wound up hurt. When you're at that age, I know it seems like you know EXACTLY what you're doing and exactly what's best. But right now, I think you need to concentrate on person-to-person relationships with your friends. Meet some guys at your school ( I Know, the boys at your school are all so immature, right? It was the same for me) or even some of the guys the next grade up. This is getting really long winded and I apologize for that, but an online relationship with a guy you've never even talked to over the phone is not true love. You're going to look back on this a few years from now, when you're in a wonderful REAL relationship and think how silly you were. That is, if you even REMEMBER him. Take care. Again, I mean this kindly. Link to comment
Ashleylynn9941 Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 i know im prolly just being stupid but hey doesnt love make ya crazy sometimes Link to comment
Satsuma Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 Thats the thing.. i dont think this is love. Link to comment
Ashleylynn9941 Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 ok u all dont get it so i give up bye Link to comment
Satsuma Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 Well if you want to be stuck in this 'going nowhere relationship' then its up to you, but you will be hurt. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 If you're going to be immature about the advice you're getting you are in no way shape or form mature enough to be in an online relationship with a cat who probably isn't who he says he is. Link to comment
Ashleylynn9941 Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 ty for trying to help Link to comment
Ashleylynn9941 Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 i didnt mean it like that ive just got about 5 ppl coming at me saying i shouldnt be with him hes not who he says he is and all that and all i asked for is somebody to tell me if im being paroniod and sorry if that sounded immature but i am in no way immature Link to comment
Satsuma Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 Well cant you see where were coming from? Your 14 going out with a so called 16 year old you havent even met. And those pictures hes shown you could be fake, All you need to do is go on a site like myspace and you have the choice of faking an identity. Link to comment
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