Nervous about giving BJ

[MM58904]

My bf and I have been going out for about 3 months and I know he is the one. Anyways, I plan on giving him a BJ. I never really have before, all my other relationships have lasted only a month and I don't rush into anything. BTW, I am 21. So I have given him little 'previews' lol to tease him. like licking. I do jerk him off so I'm not that mean lol. I rather do that than a BJ but I want to make him feel really good.

 

I just don't know how it will taste when he cums. I know I've read every guy is different but I hope it doesn't taste bad. I know there's pre cum too. I just don't wanna gag and be embarrassed. I'm kinda nervous about it, any tips? Thanks.

[bitbit]

watch some porn... that's how i learned. and cum does taste bad.... and u probably will gag... but guys usually don't mind it. some of them like the gagging a lot. it's an ego thing.

[Lady Luck]

It can either be really salty, sweet, or sour. If you don't wanna taste it as much, make sure the head is as far back in your mouth/throat as you can get it without gagging.

[MM58904]

i think i will just spit when he cums.

[Dako]

MM,

 

If I were he, I'd prefer that.

[Rabican]

spit or not, ur still gonna taste it. My girl I guess... hates the taste (or wont try it) as she has only let me finish in her mouth once. Id rather she didnt stop, but I still enjoy it. When I get close she will usually just finish up with her hand... SO if you are not big on the taste, or the thought of it you could always go that route.

 

Also, if you arent sure of technique, watch some porn.

[Helen67]

Just another pointer here, remember that his penis is an extention of him. When you think like this, then you can really put your whole body and mind into it.

 

If you just think you are giving a bj to a penis and not the guy, then you wont thorougly relax.

 

And remember you have a tongue too, keep roaming with it even when you're sucking!

 

And you can decide yourself after the initial cum, whether you want to spit or swallow. Even if your grossed out the first time don't assume you cannot take it. What you could also do is taste his cum after you've jerked him off, then you will know how it tastes!!

[Mr.Mister]

Tell him to eat pineapple. I heard that makes it taste better, though I don't know. Also, the best suggestion is from my old roommate. He used to buy flavored lube so his girlfriend could go down on him without having to taste anything bad. Just find a flavor you'll enjoy and suggest it.

[Straightj06]

i always used a flavoured condom if i planned on finishing there and then, she loved the taste and i got a great feeling. Then who knows maybe you will build up the courage and curiosity to go all the way, with out the condom x

[Lboogie23]

I totally agree with helen67. You can't think of it as just a bj. It really is an extension of him. Before i met my fiance i hated giving them. But now that i'm happy and in love with him, Its such a turn on to me and i love it!!!! good luck!

[pinkelephant]

lol, theres no way you can screw up a bj.

i got my bf off the first time i did it in like 2 mins... i was a total virgin marry before that day ( no sex of anykind, not even kissing ).

 

use your tongue while youre sucking him off.. that'll make him feel REALLY good. and swallow. i think its rude to spit, plus it's already in your mouth... you've already tasted it & it'll stay in your mouth after you spit. & cum can taste really bad if he eats a lot of meat, so feed him vegies/fruits before hand.

[amtjrtcet]

Careful with the teeth, be gentle.

 

Oh, find a position that's comfortable for the both of you. IE: Have him sit in a chair or stand while you kneel in front of him.

 

I agree, swallow. You've already got it in your mouth, it won't kill you.

[Shadows Light]

Everyone is nervous giving their first BJ. Just think about the name... BLOW JOB.... before the advent of computers and the net, getting information was tough. The name BJ... I thought.. huh.. so what do you do??? blow on it or what??? I didn't have too many GF's I could talk to.

 

Collin Harper who wrote the books "She Comes First" wrote a companion book on Blow jobs. "HE comes next". You might pick up a copy.

 

Or.. run a Search on BJ as a topic.... I know I've penned several articles and anything by DragonGirl724 on this topic is very informative.

 

Relax. Sex is supposed to be fun. Not work. Does it taste bad??? well consensus is right... all men are NOT created equal.. so all men don't taste the same. Everyone has different body chemistry. While one guy might want to make you blow chunks and swear off oral sex forever... another guy might taste yummy. Everyone is different. Give it a whirl.

 

HOWEVER.... here's what you might do. Keep tissue close by. Or a towel or something. If you are going to "SPIT"... do not retch and do it in a manner that he won't know you did it.

 

Also... what helps is if your partner communicates with you. When he's getting ready to blow.... if he tells you... try to get him further back behind the taste buds... and then swallow. Guarenteed you wont' gag. Seriously.

[PinkFlame190]

ill be honest with you...it wasn't a great experiance. Well, partly because my bf basically neglected me afterwards (we dated for a 18 months by the way). But Im still a teenager (a young one) so go for it. You've waited long enough!

[PinkFlame190]

dont swallow- cum is FILLED with calories. lol that's just wat I've heard

[lizziebee]

Guys need some help here. I get bored giving blow jobs but I also get incredibly turned on. What are the do's and don'ts of the most wonderful cum in my face blowjobs?

[pesh]

Just another pointer here, remember that his penis is an extention of him. When you think like this, then you can really put your whole body and mind into it.

 

If you just think you are giving a bj to a penis and not the guy, then you wont thorougly relax.

 

Great piece of advice there, thanks!

[EvaGina]

dont swallow- cum is FILLED with calories. lol that's just wat I've heard

 

-dies laughing-

no... no it isnt...

 

and although getting him to cum at the back of your mouth is good, dont do it TOO far back or it goes up the back of your nose and that HURTS!!!

 

dont suck too hard!! a bit of sucking is good, but too much hurts them

[Batya33]

Sorry to be a wet blanket (pun intended) but at three months, you don't know if he is the "one" because you don't know him well enough yet. In particular, do you know if he has had sex - including oral sex - with anyone else in the last 6 months? When was he tested for STDs? It's ineffective unless it's been at least 6 months before the test that he had sexual contact. Please strongly consider waiting until that 6 month period and making sure he gets tested before you do this.

[lizziebee]

LOL! E and PinkFlame, you got me giggling way outloud here! So are you saying if you swallow, it goes straight to your thighs!?!??!?! LOL!

[joiseygrl]

Here are some pointers:

 

Keep it wet... I know the instinct is to swallow when your mouth fills up with saliva, but don't... let it drip onto his penis. It creates that whole "warm and wet" feeling.

 

Don't forget to use your hands! Whatever length of his shaft you can't fit into your mouth, stroke it with you hand. Follow the motion of your mouth.

 

Guys love eye contact during oral; so don't forget to look up at him. I think it comes from the whole, "Look at this girl submitting to me" thing.

 

Don't forget about "the boys". Some guys are pretty sensitive down there so feel it out. A few light strokes, maybe a gentle squeeze, he'll let you know if he's enjoying that.

 

Don't approach it like a "chore". A guy will enjoy it more if he knows it's something you actually WANT to do.

 

Vary depth and speed. Use lots of tongue action. (Just like you were french kissing.) When you hit the right depth and speed, you'll know. He won't be able to control himself.

 

As far as the taste... it's not wonderful, but there are worse things out there. If you're that concerned, suck on an Altoid while your doing it. The intense "mintiness" will not only help with the taste, but it drives most guys wild.

[Aurian]

Its only something like 5 calories, so you'd have do a LOT of blow jobs to show any effect.... O.o

[WithHimForeverX3]

i think i will just spit when he cums.

 

I wouldnt do that if i were you. Some guys take offence to that. I know my friend told me about how her boyfriend was like that. I mean Ive only givin 1 BJ to my boyfriend and he loved it and I didnt want to seem rude so I swallowed. its not as bad as you think.

[julsiebear]

I've only done it to the end once - and it was so salty, it burned my throat! I felt like it was hard to get down too, because it was so sticky.

Spitting doesn't have to be bad, as long as you're discreet about it. He'll probably be so exhausted or blissful at that point that he won't notice anyway.

Good luck!

[Aurian]

Or just keep a glass of water nearby so you can drink it and wash out the taste.