Older women....WOW!!!!

[herbal]

Ok here goes, i like them,i have flirted with a few but not as many times as i would like. I happen to look much older than i really am so a more reason ive had a chance. Is it OK to be attracted to Older women, i think they are easy to be with,even sexy?

I have been like this for as far as i can remember,is it ok,normal?

[supernetter]

Oh yes, older women are definitely more sexy to me too. They have reached a level of maturity that comes with the fullfilment of their biological impulses.

[herbal]

I totally agree,the problem is getting one who can go out with me,they seem to be married...............are married

[TheRedQueen]

There is nothing sexier than a man who notices as well as appreciates, the regal beauty and strength that emanates from a woman who's mature and confident.

[herbal]

Where will i find her? How do i approach one i like,do i go and say .........say what?

[mgirl]

I would like to know... exactly how "old" is an older woman?

[TheRedQueen]

Go up to her, look her straight in the eye and tell her that you think she is beautiful and that you would be honored to take her out on a date.

 

If she's single, and you're sincere when approaching her, I guarantee she won't be able to refuse.

[mgirl]

how old is your version of an older woman? just curious.

[herbal]

I would like to know... exactly how "old" is an older woman?

 

Older for me is a woman from 28 to around 38,i am 22.

[TheRedQueen]

They're still just women.

Something about this statement, perhaps it's the tone, just doesn't sit well with me.

[mgirl]

Cool... i fit that age group. I look at younger guys all the time... jogging along the lake, rowing along the river... I think there is definitely something about younger men... all that testosterone and innocence (i sound like a perve, but, let's face it, older men pale in comparison to late teens and early twenty-something year-old guys!).

 

So, to answer your question, i am sure there are women out there who would be interested in you, or younger men in general.

 

I think the thing is to be confident but coy. If you are too over-confident, you would turn them off (they would just see you as "cocky" and would become bored with the situation). Remember, us mature ones have seen it all (just about), so you need to be refreshing to be "interesting" us .

 

I think a "psychological (mental)" attraction is important to us, so if you can demonstrate this, as well as respect, you are half way there.

[herbal]

Now what i need is also a woman that age comfortable with the idea,im sure most of them would freak out or think am just kidding,or playing some prank on them.

 

Tips???I need the woman to know am genuine

[herbal]

I think a "psychological (mental)" attraction is important to us, so if you can demonstrate this, as well as respect, you are half way there.

What is the psychological attraction? i dont seem to understand.

 

Another thing, what kind of things interest women that age? id really like to make a good impression at least the first time.

[TheRedQueen]

I was expecting some heat from that comment.

 

Don't worry, by calling them "women", I don't mean that "women" are inferior, or simple, or anything like that.

 

However, I do love the fact that most women are not as physically strong as I am.

Spoken like a true Dom.

[TheRedQueen]

Now what i need is also a woman that age comfortable with the idea,im sure most of them would freak out or think am just kidding,or playing some prank on them.

 

Tips???I need the woman to know am genuine

Are you a virgin?

[mgirl]

By "psychological attraction" i mean... something that stimulates her mind... a certain level of intelligence, or individuality (which means you are different from other guys). You know, just something that gets her mind going.

 

It can be anything... from naivity (a young and innocent perspective), to a different point if view (opinion) on something...

 

I think if you are genuine, and are able to "think" alot, then have the possibility of capturing a person's interest, little lone an older woman's interest.

 

I am just thinking of a time i had an invigorating conversation with my bosses nephew who was 19 at the time. He was so mentally stimulating, that i found his ideas interesting. In fact, i found it unusual that what he was saying was coming from a 19 year old. Anyway, needless to say, i found him attractive... very attractive. To the point where i contemplated what my boss would say if we had an 'affair'.

 

Also, i think physical attractiveness helps. A good body etc. (or it can be physique). Most men our age are over-weight and flabby.

 

Even a young skinny guy. The guy that i found attractive was not a gym-body by any means, but he was tall... handsome... and... you know the rest. Intelligent.

 

I think you should try your luck. If one person fails, try another. It's amazing how far some charm will get you .

 

I'm all for it... age-gap relationships. As long as it is within the law and consentual.

[mgirl]

If you want them to take it seriously, be serious. The tips you get here won't really help. You just need to go out and do it.

 

I think the 'mature' approach. Speak to her like she's an equal.

[herbal]

Are you a virgin?

 

What has virginity got to do with it?

[herbal]

I aint tall,or musculine,but i am comfortable with my body-i think that is important. But i am intelligient allright,actually way above average,a thing that makes most girls my age not good conversation mates,i have to explain most of what i say.

Recently a girl left me(i posted about it) saying i am too mature,serious and religious. Had a problem with other girls too around my age,they claim i am.......u know acting old n mature( i dont act,i am just myself)

[herbal]

You can always start with your mom's friends. Single or bored/unhappy.

 

I dont think my moms friends is such a good idea, my mom would not approve it.

I had a 'moment' with one of them,we held hands for a split moment,looked into her eyes,i was 18 then,but i freaked out.....

What would my mom say about her son dating her friend,get the point? it doesnt sound right.

[herbal]

Ok cool,but the mom friend thing still freaks me,i have seen women have a disagreement(u all know how women react)-and something like "i have been sleeping with your son" during an argument would do some serious damage.

[TheRedQueen]

What has virginity got to do with it?

Well, in a word, experience.

 

If you are a virgin, your desire to find, attract and engage an older woman in a full-blown relationship with having had absolutely no previous experience, would be like you diving head first in the deepest end, going 0 to 60 in milliseconds, in other words, it would be rather unrealistic, and potentially disasterous.

 

My advice to you?

 

Baby steps.

[herbal]

Well, in a word, experience.

 

If you are a virgin, your desire to find, attract and engage an older woman in a full-blown relationship with having had absolutely no previous experience, would be like you diving head first in the deepest end, going 0 to 60 in milliseconds, in other words, it would be rather unrealistic, and potentially disasterous.

 

My advice to you?

 

Baby steps.

I would then take your phrase as more of a figure of speech than for what it is.

I get the point,i have some experience with women,i have never dated anyone younger than me,most girls i have had are from a year to six older than me,so i gues that counts for something.

[Goldfish6888]

Hi

 

I'm an older woman...well older than your 22 yrs!

 

I have a good female friend who is 24. Now that girl has the mind of a 30 something! I do believe age has nothing to do with maturity. Some 40 somethings act like teenagers. Some people are born old souls.

 

If you are mature, will listen to a girl, respect her, call her (when you say you will ) but not in a stalking kinda way, kiss her gently and tenderly, run your fingers through her hair, hug her tightly, be her friend, open the doors for her, look at her as if she is the only one, tell her she is beautiful/cute/gorgeous, have a good sense of humour and good sense of fun, be passionate in bed - You will have luck with women/girls/gals any age!!

 

We older women need men who know how to behave!

 

I believe most younger men don't have the baggage of heartbreak.....not like older men who have at some time had their hearts broken. And believe me, those walls of previous heartbreak can be hard to break down!! Any 30 something man that is single can be a nightmare to date with all the chasing, flirting and then him pulling back (when it gets too emotional)

 

Your walls are still being built!

Go for it Herbal!

[TheRedQueen]

I would then take your phrase as more of a figure of speech than for what it is.

I get the point,i have some experience with women,i have never dated anyone younger than me,most girls i have had are from a year to six older than me,so i gues that counts for something.

Of course it does.

 

Perhaps it is your fear of being judged, and considered by others as being somewhat of a freak, that's acting as the major mental road block to your achieving romantic success with an older woman.

 

Once you truly realize that you are not, in fact a freak for liking older women, and will thereforeeee not be met with blank stares of shock when approaching them, you'll gain the level of confidence needed to make such pursuits not only more successful, but also a lot less intimidating