Its only been 11 days

[Dreamer67]

Well obviously if I'm here I am in the midst of a break-up. It really sucks. Its amazing how we tend to forget just how much heartbreak hurts when we are in a wonderful relationship. We don't think about what happens if it ends.

 

It will be 2 weeks this weekend. Last nite I had a good nite I decided to dye and cut my my hair then I went and had a tan. I was feeling pretty good. I guess I wanted to make myself feel better. Which I did. I talked to friends that said that I was sounded much better, which I was. The good feeling was short lived. Tonight its another story I am back down feeling lonely, and sad. I am really missing him right now.

 

He had been acting a bit distant for a few weeks but I just thought he was stressed about things going on in his life. He told me that he felt like he thought something was missing between us. Said that he did love me but he had to figure out what it was. When we broke up we both cried. At one point I actually was conforting him. He told me he needed to find out that couldn't live without me. He had to know that in order to go on with US!!

 

I have stuck strong to the NO CONTACT rule except for a small slip when I sent him a text. I only said Hi. He responded back to say Hello to me as well. Since then I have had no contact with him although I am wanting to contact him. I told him I would not call him and hope to stick to it.

 

This is the worst time of the year to be suffering from a broken heart.

 

Any advice

[heartlessromantic]

I think you are doing well! Remember the stuff that you did that made you feel good. Keep doing those things and any other things that make you feel good. I know exactly where you are and how you are feeling. Keep plugging away. It does get better.

[Dreamer67]

I just received this poem from a friend of mine and thought it was so perfect that I thought I would share it

 

 

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't

supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart

broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break

hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight

with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one

did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually

lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and

love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend

upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back. Don't be afraid

that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

[terk2021]

Hi Dreamer. I am sorry to hear about what you are going through. Most of us on this board are going through very similar situations, are at various stages of it. How to stop the hurt? It's very, very hard to do. Getting out with friends, family, and not sitting around is always helpful. It's good to hear that you are doing things for you.

 

The toughest thing you can do is sit around and analyze his words and actions. It's especially tough when you love someone, and you hear things like that back. It's only an opinion, but the best thing I think you can do is try to move forward in your life. Always remember who you are, and what you have to offer. Try and remember who you were before this relationship started, and how wonderful it felt when it did start. I am not necessarily suggesting that you date if you are not ready to, but go out, have fun.

 

I sat around for 4 months after my breakup, and only recently started to go out again. Although it feels like I will never meet someone as incredible as my ex, I know that time will heal. I have learned to accept that everything happens for a reason.

 

It's his loss. I wish you the best through the holidays.

[revitalized]

sigh..I know it hurts a lot but when things like this happen out of nowhere you just gotta pack your stuff and move forward..my advice to you is to just chill with your friends and advance so far that you realize that you can live. When you are down, always tell yourself that it's not the end of the world and that there will be better days. Just try hanging out with friends a lot and when you wake up and think about him just put on some music and jump out of bed. So just try your best to have fun and time will surely pass. It's going to take time but you can do it. Believe in yourself and all of a sudden weeks will turn into months.

 

take care and keep us posted.