NC etiquette

[luciand]

So I'm thinking ahead of myself as usual... and I was wondering about a few things with NC.

 

My situation is a little bit different than usual break ups.

Here is a link to the whole thing.

 

 

 

1) What etiquette is there within NC? Are there special exceptions for breaking/doing things differently?

 

2) Because of my situation I don't want to hurt her. I don't know if I should tell her that I'm initiating NC or just out of nowhere drop it.

[Slagar]

Have you read majord23's guide on NC? If not, please do.

 

 

Etiquette? The etiquette, is simply to disappear. There are no special exceptions for breaking it; you simply don't.

 

Because of your situation, you still care very much about her. Too much. Don't say anything - just go.

 

I know this is not what you want to hear, but talking to her is only going to make things easier on her. If she truly wants to continue to be with you, she will seek you out.

Let some time pass, before you let yourself talk to her again - only by means of her initiating contact.

 

I've been in that exact same situation before. It seems crazy, but unfortunately, being the nice guy, and doing what you feel is right, isn't always the best option.

[luciand]

Yes, I have read that topic, but something about it doesn't seem to fit for me. I'm pretty much already at the acceptance/getting over it stage. So I'm kinda curious if NC is the right thing to do. I know I can get over this... it probably won't be fast but I know it's possible.

 

I have actually been considering maybe not initiating NC in order to help her through this as well. I don't know if that's a stupid decision or what, because at one point I wouldn't mind getting back together. However, I don't want it to seem as if I will be waiting for her on hands and feet till she comes back. I just care enough about her to help her out.