I dont want to talk to him anymore..

[nomoretears4uboo]

Thanks for all your help.

[southerngirl]

The problem with lying is that it usually will come out in the end.

 

 

You have to decide what is important to you. If you dont want to talk to the ex, then dont. How long did you date the ex?

 

If you want to continue talking tot he ex, then you need to be honest with the boyfriend. How long have you been dating the new boyfriend?

 

 

Do not allow him to control you. Its one step towards total lack of yourself. Only do what you want to do.

[nomoretears4uboo]

The problem with lying is that it usually will come out in the end.

 

 

You have to decide what is important to you. If you dont want to talk to the ex, then dont. How long did you date the ex?

 

If you want to continue talking tot he ex, then you need to be honest with the boyfriend. How long have you been dating the new boyfriend?

 

 

Do not allow him to control you. Its one step towards total lack of yourself. Only do what you want to do.

 

I dated the ex for almost a year. Then we didnt talk for almost a year and then became friends. I dont want to talk to him. Will ignoring his calls work?

 

The new boyfriend 3 months.

[Mythical_Suicide]

If he's been calling you for this long now and you've been ignoring them and he still continues to call then more than likely that isn't the best solution for him. You need to tell him up front that you think he is calling WAY too much maybe you should cut the contact, you have alot going on in your life right now and you dont really have the time to talk with everyday. While, if you stillw ould like to continue tlaking with him make it clear you would love to hear from him every now and then just not every day. Also, you need to be honest with your bf and tell him you are stillt alking with your ex. This happened in my current relationship and it hurt me when I found out my bf was still talking with his ex's but would lie to me and say he wasn't, i felt very betrayed by him.

[Momene]

Although your boyfriend may seem controlling it is a fact that most people are not at all comfortable with their partners being in contact with an ex. Now this may be national, cultural and generation bias but a lot of problems on this board are caused by contact with exes.

 

Many exes may become friends but is it purely platonic friendship or is there some suspicion of him wanting you to dump your boyfriend and get back with him?

 

If so, your boyfriend's behaviour is understandable and possibly justified.

[nomoretears4uboo]

No just platonic. Our conversations are all the same. He talks about his work and other girls.

[Momene]

No just platonic. Our conversations are all the same. He talks about his work and other girls.

 

In which case, you should let your boyfriend in on the conversations to reassure him. So many people on this board are insecure about their partner's exes and, in some cases, understandably so.