This is gonna sound really dorky...

[dogheadma]

Last christmas my girlfriend and I had been together only 2 mos. and I got her a really nice tennis bracelet and she loves it. Won't take it off, not even to shower, only if she's doing chores.

 

Anyway, this year I would like to get her some more nice jewelry but she only wears rings. One on each finger. So I would like to get her a ring, but I don't intend to propose yet at this point in time. I guess that would make it like a "promise ring". This is only the 3rd serious relationship I've ever been in and I've never given anyone such a gift before.

 

So I would basically like to know if anyone has any thoughts about this. Does it sound like a good, appropriate gift? (and here comes the really dorky part of my post) If you give someone a promise ring, what do you say when you present it? I know this sounds really silly but I'm just looking to see if anyone has any thoughts on the subject. Thanks in advance and Happy Holidays!

[Day_Walker]

Why dont you get a jewelry box instead of jewelry. I think you set the standard pretty high when you got her a tennis bracelet after only being with her for 2 months. I am not a big fan of promise rings or jewelry but if you have to go that route then why not a necklace rather than a ring.

[luvursmile]

I woundnt get her a promise ring after only 2 months.

[dogheadma]

We've been together for a year and she dosen't wear necklaces, only rings.

[Scotcha]

Something about a "promise ring" just doesn't sit right with me and never has. I don't fully understand why someone would promise to ask me to marry them someday instead of just asking me to marry them.

 

I think a ring is a very appropriate gift and just because it's a ring doesn't mean it's any kind of promise. (Unless you want it to be of course.)

[luvursmile]

Oops sorry, i misread it! In that case, just look her in the eye & tell her how much you love her. Jusy let the words come from your heart. Be careful, though, when she sees a ring shes gonna assume its an engagement ring.

[Scotcha]

Be careful, though, when she sees a ring shes gonna assume its an engagement ring.

 

I've gotten rings that I never mistook for an engagement ring.

[luvursmile]

Really? I guess its the way you present it then. Ive only gotten 2, one was an engagement ring the other was an eternity band on our 10th anniversary. So i guess im not an expert.

[Day_Walker]

We've been together for a year and she dosen't wear necklaces, only rings.

 

She didnt wear a tennis braclet until you bought it either.

[dogheadma]

She didnt wear a tennis braclet until you bought it either.

 

Ah.. Excellent point!

[hosswhispra]

Get her a trip to a day spa. That is way better than jewelry (in my opinion )

[Honey Pumpkin]

Does she wear earrings? Or another bracelet? Rings are unbelievably tricky, I think. I love bracelets and necklaces myself. Or a thumb ring? (I like thumb rings!). I think it could potentially misfire, but I'm in the UK, we don't have 'promise' rings as such. Hmmm.

 

Personally, a present I would absolutely adore would be a fabulous fountain pen, or really nice jewellry that's not a ring.

 

But you sound really thoughtful, which is the main thing - she's a lucky girl!

[annie24]

it sounds awfully strange to buy buying her a "promise ring" when you are 39. That is something younger people do for each other.

 

now, you could get her a different kind of ring, something that won't be confused as an enagement ring. like an emerald or ruby ring, or sapphire, topaz, opal... etc...

 

earrings also.

 

wow. 2 months and a tennis bracelet? I've been dating the wrong men...