Do some guys just not like giving oral?

[happyascanbe]

it sounds like he's just being whiny... waa waa i don't like it.. boo hoo!

 

 

LOL,

i guess it would just mean more if he did like it

or wanted too sometimes.

[happyascanbe]

He says he does not like the smell etc.

 

so would flavord lube help?

[Corvette]

so would flavord lube help?

 

 

I don't think so, I just think he is lazy in the sack....

[shikashika]

He says he does not like the smell etc.

 

hmnn... unless she really has some odour problem..it sounds like he's being a big baby... no offence to your friend!

[heaven]

No disrespect to your fella, but this seems awfully selfish to me. Okay, so his self-esteem is tied into this-- he feels that his penis should be sufficient, BUT what about your feelings??

 

Does he have any concept of how it makes you feel when he says he doesn't like going down on you? Though I enjoy it, I would have a very hard time giving oral to a man who did not want to return the favor. It's not like he would have to be down there for very long..... if done right, it only takes a coupla minutes if that. It seems like it would turn him on to see you so turned on.

 

I'm sure a lot of couples have this same issue, and I hope everything gets better soon.

 

 

Many hugs to you.

[itsallgrand]

I don't think so, I just think he is lazy in the sack....

 

Aha! My thoughts exactly.

 

And why wouldn't he be...when he gets all he wants without having to do a thing?

 

It's not 'wrong' to withhold. Reservation in good measure is sexy and shows confidence...and it is necessary.

 

Just my opinion!

[Corvette]

Aha! My thoughts exactly.

 

And why wouldn't he be...when he gets all he wants without having to do a thing?

 

It's not 'wrong' to withhold. Reservation in good measure is sexy and shows confidence...and it is necessary.

 

Just my opinion!

 

 

I think you hit the nail on the head here.

[shikashika]

No disrespect to your fella, but this seems awfully selfish to me. Okay, so his self-esteem is tied into this-- he feels that his penis should be sufficient, BUT what about your feelings??

 

Does he have any concept of how it makes you feel when he says he doesn't like going down on you? Though I enjoy it, I would have a very hard time giving oral to a man who did not want to return the favor. It's not like he would have to be down there for very long..... if done right, it only takes a coupla minutes if that. It seems like it would turn him on to see you so turned on.

 

I'm sure a lot of couples have this same issue, and I hope everything gets better soon.

 

 

Many hugs to you.

 

i agree with heaven... when i'm with someone... I WANT him to feel good, I LIKE to make him feel appreciated... I WANT him to feel like i think he's the grooviest! i dont' understand why he doesn't want you to feel like this...

[happyascanbe]

he just emailed me and siad he was sorry he was sleepy and feeling rushed. but next time he wants to and he likes pleasing me.......

 

maybe that means i will start getting it more then once in a blue moon!

[lunatic]

I agree with the others on holding back on the oral till he figures out why. I am a giver and I love to receive but, I would never expect my SO to do anything for me unless I please her. I don't understand how a guy would not want to see his lady squirming around while having an orgasm. I think it is such a huge turn on to see her in the throws of an orgasm.

 

Maybe that is me but, I would hold out till he figures out what is good for the goose is also good for the gander. I always felt it was a two way street when in a relationship and in the bedroom is also part of that street.

 

Talk to him about it and how it bothers you. If he does not seem to care then you have two choices here.

 

1. stop giving him oral

2. leave his lazy butt.

[heaven]

Maybe that is me but, I would hold out till he figures out what is good for the goose is also good for the gander. I always felt it was a two way street when in a relationship and in the bedroom is also part of that street.

Well said.