a lil help?

[AnotherBrokenDoll]

When i'm with a group of people i'm totally outgoing and happy and weird and all that stuff but if i get left alone with my bf i become really quiet. I can't think of anything to talk about. Its fine over the phone or on the net but face to face i dunno i just can't do it... Any tips?

[Cloud802]

Sometimes it's good to just be around the person and all the talking takes place on the phone, but that might be biased because my last girlfriend was an LDR.

 

Just talk about random stuff and see if it sparks up conversation, tell him about your day so far, find some good jokes to make him laugh. Conversation is a hard thing, but if you're persistent you'll get it.

[AnotherBrokenDoll]

Thanks... Its so weird though, i can talk about anything usually but stick me in a room by myself with a guy and i'm stuffed and can not find any words!

[Cloud802]

The most important advice I can give you with this is say what you're thinking, even if you decide not to say it, make yourself say it, but if you can't think of anything then don't force the conversation.

[shikashika]

sometimes you dont' need to speak when you are with someone....

 

and... it takes TWO to make a conversation... its not just you!

[AnotherBrokenDoll]

Yeah i know sometimes it is nice to just enjoy their company but other times you dp need conversation... I know it takes to but it feels like what i talk about is super boring.

[mitch17]

talk about sprots, its the best thing to talk about, or totally make something up, like something random.

[Aurian]

I think girls tend to be more uncomfortable with pauses than guys are though? (Correct me if I am wrong) You might feel more uncomfortable than the guy is feeling. Just reach out and hold his hand or something instead

[Markers]

talk about his interests. Eventually with your boyfriend you're gonna run out of topics if you're not careful. You should be active and always reading, watching and listening new things and ideas, jokes, whatever. The more you know, the more you have to make up topics from. If you're having problems, you need to force it at first. The convos might be forced, but it'll get better. Also if you get him talking about something, you only need to listen, so that might be a nice idea. Especially in relationship you need to be able to talk about any random stuff, and don't be afraid to start something totally random. If you have good chemistry, it probably is fun anyways.

[AnotherBrokenDoll]

lolz, well we broke up but thanks for the tips.

[Aurian]

Ouch, sorry to hear that!

[AnotherBrokenDoll]

Nah its ok I think its for the best. I'm not the girl he needs... And to be honest i didn't want to become that girl. I mean don't get me wrong i liked him and all... But i just need space and his more of a its me and you person So its ok. Plus i was confused about everything so yea. But we are still mates.