Does it Ever End???

[brokedownpoet]

Will the pain of losing the one you love to another every end??? will the hatred for the other girl ever end?? will the thought that you still want to talk to him every day of your life, every end??? is it okay to move on??? How long is it okay to cry for???

I will write my story, but for now i just need that off my chest, cause i am doing this almost alone and i need others out there who know what it's like and will pull me along side and encourage me... it's taken me 3 months to get my butt here, and now i'm here to hear what people have to say...

[W1nter]

Hi poet,

 

It will end. After time, you'll learn to move on and find another great love, and open up to them and maybe things will be even better. You've got to believe that, not just to help yourself, but also because it's true. The person whom I thought was the love of my life ditched our marriage of four years for someone else. What helps me is to realize that the person who did that to me isn't really the person who I fell in love with... I didn't fall in love with a cruel, malicious person who would do this to someone else. At some point she changed and I just didn't see it or want to admit it. Somewhere inside, you probably feel the same way.

 

Sure I still want to talk to her, as stupid as it seems. I have every reason to hate her but despite myself I still love her. I do however know she's not any good for me now and not talking to her or contacting her is the only way I can heal... if this isn't what you're doing now, NC might be a good idea for you.

 

Things will get better. Life goes on, and there are better people out there for you who will give you the love and care you deserve.

 

Take care.

 

-Winter

[agent1607307371]

It will. Everything eventually passes.

 

It took me over a year, but I can honestly say I can think about my ex and the girl he was cheating on me with and left me for and not feel anything but distant to it. (and maybe a bit of pity for the girl...)

[ephemeralDreams]

Will the pain of losing the one you love to another every end??? will the hatred for the other girl ever end?? will the thought that you still want to talk to him every day of your life, every end??? is it okay to move on??? How long is it okay to cry for???

I will write my story, but for now i just need that off my chest, cause i am doing this almost alone and i need others out there who know what it's like and will pull me along side and encourage me... it's taken me 3 months to get my butt here, and now i'm here to hear what people have to say...

 

A year after the break-up I am in pain, but not every day anymore! I do hate the other guy. However, feeling the hate is worse part now. I am tired of hatred. I do not want to talk with her every day anymore. I do want answers I will never get. It is OK to move on, you must! That is easer said than done. I still cry; not as mutch thank god. Good luck, I am with you!

[brokedownpoet]

its been 3 days since ive nc.... its so hard..

[agent1607307371]

It will be hard for a while.

 

You just have to treat yourself nicely and do other stuff to keep your mind off it.

 

Imagining them really miserable and stuck with each other helps a little bit

[Vynde]

Hey Poet.

 

Im really sorry your in so much pain. I felt the same way myslef and sometimes still do. Im glad you found us, We are a good group, with some good poeple. We are gonna get you past this hard time and help you see the truth which right now is clouded by all these emotions.

 

Keep in mind that it will pass.. Hard to believe I know. Some people take longer than others, as you will see by reading some threads, but you will also notice improvments in everyone... it just takes time.

 

Like the others have mentioned, Keep up with NC. That can sometimes be extreamly hard, but its an important step in my opinion and has helped me. Calling him or trying to track down who he is wwith or what hes been up to will only hurt you.. So try and stick with it.

 

Keep crying, keep posting, allow yourself to heal, you will get better. Promis.

 

John

[brokedownpoet]

well he will still text me from time to time to tell me he's okay or something and it's so hard to not text back but i've managed.. i still have to get up the guts to write the whole story one of these days.