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I found a great site on how to masturbate your man and it was a guide on how to do it well. There was even one on how to masturbate your lady too! I wish I could find it now. Sorry. Anyway, it was a tantric guide to masturbation. I hope this helps. It offered the best description of how to achieve a female clitoral orgasm I have ever seen!

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^do you even know what you're talking about?

 

Lost, alot of guys have a harder time getting off from oral and/or manual stimulation whether they're into it or not so it takes longer and it doesnt mean shes not good at it..

 

Do *YOU* know what you're talking about? When was the last time you got a bj or a hj?

 

How long do you think it takes for that guy to jerk himself off. I bet it doesn't take an hour.

 

What do you think is the difference?

 

Like I said, either he's not into the act, or the person performing it isn't good at giving head or hand.

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Girls, how many guys do you know that have got you off? Not many, I bet! lol. Truth is many guys don't do it right MOST of the time! lol.

 

The best tip I can give is to relax and just think of massaging his legs, groin, testicles. Use oil if you want. Just take your time. It doesn't have to be frantic and quick anyway. Savour the moment! Then just stroke his penis and move on to softly gripping it and moving your hand from the base to the tip. Then move on to doing this with one hand then the other and then move on to using just one hand whilst twisting slightly and increase speed.

 

With a BJ, I lick and lube and then ensure my strokes are smooth and soft and I can feel it fill when ejaculation is imminent and I increase pressure and speed.

 

I think if you relax then what to do comes quite naturally, especially when you 'listen' to what is going on with his body.

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^do you even know what you're talking about?

 

Lost, alot of guys have a harder time getting off from oral and/or manual stimulation whether they're into it or not so it takes longer and it doesnt mean shes not good at it..

 

I have to agree with Lost. If it takes anywhere near an hour, both partners have made some mistakes (unless she just wants to do it that long). I could be just poor planning. Many men can just get close from sex and have her finish him off with a quickish blowjob. When you are about to blow most anything works.

 

In the above case, either her technique is obviously not correct for that particular man (and he hasn't worked with her to help teach her), he can't get off from a blowjob at all, or they are doing an exceedingly poor job at commmunicating. He very well might not be into it mentally. In any event, I like the notion that everyone is responsible for their own orgasm. I'd never come down on a woman for having bad technique. I am just happy if I get a blowjob at all. But truth be told technique is huge for men who have trouble getting off orally. It may feel great, but a different technique is needed to actually finish it off. And that varies by each man.

 

If a man can get off by masturbation using his hand in X minutes, then he can learn to get off with a combo hj/bj in X minutes too. Same hand motion + a modicum of mouth action = same result = orgasm. It is a technique thing on her part and a mental/learned thing on his part.

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That is really good advice! I might add from a guys point of view, it is usually a consistent rhythm that brings orgasm from a hj or blowjob. Constantly switching things up won't get the job done much of the time. You can think of the buildup and 'slowly' turn up the dial. You do the same basic motion or a few variations thereof and increase intensity based on his reactions.

 

If it isn't working, HE should tell you that and should be able to suggest some modifications that feel better. It helps to note that for some men, the build up may take 5-10 minutes. He may not go from 'I am doing fine baby' to ' oh God, oh God, I am coming' in a minute or two.

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Oh hell you ppl, I was thowing a figure out there! Instead of saying, well, every man is different and it depends on each man and what they prefer and blah blah blah blah blah!

 

There are men (that I've been with) who can stop and wait a few seconds and then go again...to make it last longer. Yeah, if you doing yourself your not into holding anything back, I would suppose you would try to finish as fast as you can.

 

I wasn't posting to you or for you Lost, I was posting to the OP!

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True! Not to be contrary but as guys, we can't so much get our tongue down there. We often don't use both hands. We can't talk like sexy women can. And we don't have boobs to help with getting off either.

 

And I wouldn't make that statement unless you have slept with a pornstar or two. Might have to eat you words haha (and no I haven't done this but would love to). Many guys just know how to use their hands in a one or two basic motions. They develop a habit and that persists.

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True! Not to be contrary but as guys, we can't so much get our tongue down there. We often don't use both hands. We can't talk like sexy women can. And we don't have boobs to help with getting off either.

 

Maybe not... but when my eyes are closed, it's all there doing whatever I want it to

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Are you kidding?

 

1 hour of oral and/or manual stimulation?

 

Either you're doing it wrong, or he's not into either act.

 

Not necessarily man, my gf does it as good as any girl I have been with, and I dont think its possible for me to get off by mouth. But it takes a long time anyway I get off.

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^do you even know what you're talking about?

 

Lost, alot of guys have a harder time getting off from oral and/or manual stimulation whether they're into it or not so it takes longer and it doesnt mean shes not good at it..

 

It shouldnt take an hour. And yes I know what im talking about I am a guy. Put it this way, find out how long it takes your man to do the job himself... Im guessing its NOT an hour. Thats about how long it should take you, give or take a few minutes.

 

And yes oral can sometimes take longer, as it doesnt provide the same level of 'friction' that sex, or a handjob does in most cases. However, if im really turned on, sometimes oral can get me there faster than anything else... I think its super hot and sometimes thats half the deal.

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