What is the hardest part of being single?

[Kevin T]

For those who are unattached presently or have been single for a long time in the past but now are not, I ask: What do you find to be the most difficult aspect of being single and why?

[Anna.]

I hate going to bed alone! I want to be held every night while I sleep. When I wake up with a bad dream, I want someone there with me to hold me and tell me it's ok. And when I get scared in the night, I want someone there to protect me.

 

Sadly, I still have this problem b/c I'm in a LDR for the moment.

[sooky]

thinking up an answer when my large greek granny asks 'why you no marry yet???'

what do you say to that?!

[rose2summer]

What do you find to be the most difficult aspect of being single and why?

 

Not having someone to turn to to share my innermost thoughts about life, my career, day, etc.

 

I find though that being single is the greatest joy ever because the only one you can lean on is you.

 

So it's truly a gift to be your one and only dependent.

 

Hugs, Rose

[BillyJean714]

I don't really look at it as what's sucky about being single, other than when I think of major holidays or my birthday.

 

But, one thing that I like about being single is when someone approaches me, I don't feel guilty for talking to them, because I'm single. I feel guiltier talking to someone when they approach me when I'm in a relationship. Sucks, because they seem like really nice guys, and the ex wasn't. Then it reinforces the idea that, "Yeah, being single is better, because I wouldn't want to waste my time on Mr. Wrong when I could've spent time with Mr. Right."

[southerngirl]

Not having someone to share things with. When I was single, that was the hardest part.

 

Sure, friends are great but it doesnt compare to a lover, a partner, my husband that I have now.

[Batya33]

The rude/prying questions from married and attached people about when I'm going to get married and am I aware my biological clock is ticking. hey - wait - those same people still ask those questions now that I'm dating someone!

 

I hate the "pity" reactions from certain people, particularly those who are unhappily married.

 

I don't like the awkward feeling of walking into a party alone (although sometimes that can be fun) and often I didn't like the immense effort and hard work involved in dating and going to singles events.

[laboheme]

Not having somebody to care about, not having somebody to cheer up when he's feeling down, not knowing that somebody might be thinking about you right this second, not knowing that your smile or a simple hug can make somebody's day...

[New_Horizons]

What can I say? Everyone above has said it already! I'm going to echo each and every one of them. Being single sucks.

[sooky]

oh goodness no! being single is me time. i like me time. when used correctly makes for happier future loving. i almost miss being single!

[quietgrl]

Well i can't believe not one man is interest in me that's the hardest part of being single.I guess i better get my cave ready

[rose2summer]

I hate the "pity" reactions from certain people, particularly those who are unhappily married.

 

Wow, I hear you there, my response is first comes education, then comes marriage, before I get tied down.

 

If they choose to judge, so be it, but I am getting what I want out of life, sucking it dry, and if they wanted to be tied down early on, that's for them, not me!

[rose2summer]

Well i can't believe not one man is interest in me that's the hardest part of being single.I guess i better get my cave ready

 

Get your cave ready? You mean get your mountain ready, since you can dance, sing, yell, do anything, you aren't held down now, enjoy it while it lasts!

[quietgrl]

Get your cave ready? You mean get your mountain ready, since you can dance, sing, yell, do anything, you aren't held down now, enjoy it while it lasts!

 

I'm use to doing things by myself because i never had any offline friends or a man interested in me.I'm use to doing things alone but a man showing interest in me.I'm not use to that.

[CarnelianButterfly]

Not having someone to share all the wonder and beauty I see every day. Not having someone that cares about me and is willing to be my friend and my lover. Not having someone who understands you.

[Dako]

I miss hugs, and being able to share things like a flock of white egrets in afternoon light against a mackeral sky.

 

Yeah, lyrical cornball stuff like that rings my chimes.

[New_Horizons]

Why didn't I think of this before? Someone to watch and applaud as I fly my radio controlled helicopter.

[renaissancewoman101]

Someone to share stuff with, share a meal with, go out and enjoy life. Watch a sunrise or sunset. Walk on the beach. Stuff like that. Travel with.

 

Wake up to someone next to me. That is something I miss.

 

I hope to have a bf soon. Yeah, probably the next eternity

[Kevin T]

Wow, so many replies so quickly. Errh, anyway, I'll answer too:

 

I miss having someone to kiss, to hold in my arms, to cuddle with late at night in bed with and I miss not having someone to say "I love you" to. (I know, pretty well all physical stuff, but I'm a very physical person.) lol

[BillyJean714]

Hey guys, why not look at being single as something positive?

 

It doesn't really help to think of all of the negative qualities about it, right?

 

Here are my reasons for being happy that I am single:

#1. I don't have to put up with my ex's whining/nagging behavior.

2. I don't have to put up with his arrogance.

3. I don't have to try to please his family anymore.

4. I can talk to whomever I please.

 

God, I am SO glad that I am single, and SO glad I am not tied down to him anymore! Being single isn't as bad if you think about it.

 

Think of all of the positive aspects of being single. You'll feel better that way.

[Dako]

Read the title of the thread, Billyjean.

[BillyJean714]

I did. I'm just trying to cheer people up.

 

Why should we be so hard on ourselves? Being single doesn't have to be so tough. Being single isn't as bad.

 

Think a bit more positively about it; makes life a little easier.

[Kevin T]

But you're just talking about all the "bad" stuff you had to put up with then. How is that really "positive?"

 

 

Anyway, I emphatically and exhuberantly reiterate:

 

 

What is the hardest part of being single?

[lost_status]

Theres nothing hard about being single for me, actaully I find it easir than maintaining a relationship!

 

I love the single life....for now!

[yeawutever]

Actually being single is better than being in a relationship, you don't have to rely about your wherabouts nor worry about possible hurting that person's feelings nor worry about someday becoming attach to that person.