how many

[crow]

I am new to this forum and I am curious as to how many people get back together after a long break up. I will make a new post about my situation, but I am curious...expecially where the woman left the man and then came back.

[melrich]

There would be many, many cases of this happening, a couple getting back together after a long break up. Just like there are many many people who smoke all their lives and live to 80.

 

The more relevant question is what percentage get back together after a long break up. And that percentage would be quite small. And the percentage that do it successfully would be even smaller.

 

The worst thing you can do is find reasons to hang on to false hope.

 

Post your situation and maybe the members here can give you some specific feedback.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

No matter how many people do or don't get back together, it is irrelevant to your situation. Every situation is different and you can't base what will happen in your case on what happens with other people.

[Dako]

Melrich has a good analogy.

Is it better to smoke, citing the few who do it without a problem, or face the facts?

 

Clinging to hope in a breakup is easy and more often than not, tragic.

[sillygurl]

That's pretty tough....how long have you been apart? And are you in close proximity to one another? (The latter makes a huge difference.)

[gfj]

like I originally read on here when we first broke up almost 2 months ago, you can't force a relationship back together and the longer it takes to get back together the stronger it will be. As the way you see it at first isn't exacly clear.

The key is to set some goals and make yourself a better person, I was devastated at first but now I realize all I have going for me and am starting to enjoy being on my own.

I still want her back if we can work out all our issues but amazingly enough I wouldn't take her back now until all those issues were out and being worked on.

IMO the most important thing for yourself is to have a friend to talk to you can tell everything to and if you don't go see a cousellor and this will make you get things more straight in your mind.

Just keep your cool and give every thought a day or so before you act on it.

take your time and it will pay off one way or another. This could be someone you spend the rest of your life with so make it perfectly right