Try and sort this out then!!!!

[forestfire10]

Hi all, give me some advice on this becasue my head is totally ****.

 

Been seeing the same girl for just over 4 years, for the first 3 everything was fine then in the last year it became a bit stale.

 

I tried on many occasions to talk this through with her but nothing ever changed.

 

Over the last few months a good friend of mine (female) started to come running with me. We had a great time and unfortunately i've developed strong feelings for her.

 

Nothing got better in my relationship and recently i decided to end it.

 

Now i've moved out and am finding things really tough, the girl who came running is also a good friend of my ex and has sort of had to choose between us, and of course shes chosen my ex.

 

Now i feel like i've lost em both,

 

question is do i tell running girl how i feel and blow the whole thing up again. Really like this girl but now we've split my ex is sorta the person i fell in love with again, if i had to choose i'd go for running girl, but don't want to loose contact with both of them.

 

Would be easy to go back to my ex, she'd welcome me back with open arms but would it go stale again.

 

Someone told me today that if I don't tell running girl how i feel i'll regret it for the rest of my life!

 

DISCUSS!!!

[dogheadma]

If you've lost contact with both of them at this point but you're really into running girl then I would give it a shot, as you don't have much to lose.

[confused25]

Well I think you need to give both the running girl and your ex some time. I mean, you just broke up with her friend, I think it would be kinda messed up for you to pursue the running girl right away. She probably feels guilty as well. So maybe give your ex some time to cool off first and see what happens.

[forestfire10]

Well I think you need to give both the running girl and your ex some time. I mean, you just broke up with her friend, I think it would be kinda messed up for you to pursue the running girl right away. She probably feels guilty as well. So maybe give your ex some time to cool off first and see what happens.

 

 

yeah thats what i thought but just can't get her out of my head. would be gutted if i left it too long and she found someone else

[ramsickle1369]

You have to follow your heart. If you don't you'll never forgive yourself. At the very least, tell Running Girl how you feel and let her sort it out. If she decides against it, you did your best and you have no regrets. If you never tell her, it will eat at you the rest of your life...

 

The dilemma about the X sounds very much like loneliness. You broke up for a reason. 4 years is a pretty long time to get to know someone. If it went stale after 4 years, what makes you think it will be any different in another 4?

 

Follow your heart... no regrets. LIVE LIFE!

[forestfire10]

You have to follow your heart. If you don't you'll never forgive yourself. At the very least, tell Running Girl how you feel and let her sort it out. If she decides against it, you did your best and you have no regrets. If you never tell her, it will eat at you the rest of your life...

 

The dilemma about the X sounds very much like loneliness. You broke up for a reason. 4 years is a pretty long time to get to know someone. If it went stale after 4 years, what makes you think it will be any different in another 4?

 

Follow your heart... no regrets. LIVE LIFE!

 

 

I guess you only get one go!

[Ms. Babydoll]

You need to take a few days to figure out what you really want. I think you should tell running girl how you feel, it doesn't need to go anywhere, she just needs to know, otherwise if you were to go back to your ex and running girl was to come around things wouldn't feel comfortable for you.

 

You also need to talk to your ex, find out whythings went stale, try to work through your problems, at least that way if things don't go back to before at least you guys can stay friends.

[Momene]

I'd leave the door open for Running Girl but explore other options as well.