Getting my self esteem back

[oahuborn]

I have been with gf for over a year and have lost my self esteem in the process. We have been through a lot and it has come down to almost our last thread. I have become clingy and needy and I hate myself for being that way. I feel I I have to have her around me all the time to make me feel at ease. I wasn't like this in the beginning but now things have changed. I would like to be able to stand on my own two feet again without worrying about her all the time. Things I used to do aren't not happening anymore. Can you possible give me some suggestions on getting your self esteem, individuality back? I don't want to push her away but I feel my behaviors are not making anything better b/w us. Thanks all

[kafka]

Can you possible give me some suggestions on getting your self esteem, individuality back?

Somewhat difficult to do without knowing how and/or why you lost it in the first place? Do you know?

[oahuborn]

At first she wanted to spend all her time with me. I reluctantly started to do so. Things have changed and now she does not want to spend all her time with me. She did not say it exactly but her actions tell me.

[avman]

You might start doing some things on your own and develop some of your own interests and friends outside the relationship. Take a class, join a club, enroll in a sports league, etc. You need to develop a sense of yourself so you do not lose yourself completely in the relationship.

 

I don't think it is healthy for two people to spend ALL of their time together. That can be suffocating and can lead to a lot of boredom in the relationship. Get out there and be who you are meant to be.