not climaxing from intercourse?

[qwimjim]

hey, as i stated before i'm never at this whole thing and have been working through some problems.. at first i wasn't able to get an erection when needed, then i wasn't able to hold it.. i switched to kimono microthin condoms and seem to be able to stay hard longer with those. originally i'd asked if anyone ejaculates from handjos/blowjobs and it seemed like it wasn't completely abnormal that i didn't.. however, now that we've tried intercourse three times, the last time last about 15 minutes.. i can't say that i felt myself approaching any kind of climax at any point.. is it because i'm wearing a condom? i can't say that i feel anywhere near as much as i'd imagined i would..

 

i then go down on my girlfriend until she gets off and she in turn goes down on me for a while but i have to finish myself off.. the way i do this is with very fast short strokes with all the pressure on the head of my penis, none on the shaft.. this is just the way i've always masturbated (likely due to having an abnormally tight foreskin that didn't retract completely when erect in my younger years).. i'm beginning to think years of masturbating this way with no other kind of sexual stimulation has wired my penis to only respond to this technique, a technique that can't be replicated during intercourse.. i don't even think my gf could move that fast with her hands, i've had years of experience..

 

so how do i unlearn this? or teach myself to climax from slower and/or longer strokes? i really want my girlfriend to be able to make me orgasm on her own, especially during intercourse.. i'm sure its bumming her out that i haven't. i stopped masturbating and looking at porn two weeks ago when the whole limp thing was happening.. i thought maybe years of looking at porn had de-sensitized me to the point that having a real life woman in my bed wasn't enough to excite me.. but now i'm thinking maybe i should be masturbating, except using a slower/longer more intercourse like stroke to see if i can teach my penis to react to a different technique??

 

thoughts?

[jsx730]

Sounds like it's worth a shot. Find some time alone, with no pressure, and just use the longer/slower strokes. It may take awhile, but I imagine you can get it there eventually. Other then that, try to take your next intercourse session as slow as possible. See if you can make it last an hour, but don't rush orgasm (yours or hers). Chances are you won't even think about it and it will happen.

[qwimjim]

Sounds like it's worth a shot. Find some time alone, with no pressure, and just use the longer/slower strokes. It may take awhile, but I imagine you can get it there eventually. Other then that, try to take your next intercourse session as slow as possible. See if you can make it last an hour, but don't rush orgasm (yours or hers). Chances are you won't even think about it and it will happen.

 

well i doubt i can last an hour without going soft.. and frankly it would really suck if it took me an hour to come everytime. i can jerk myself off in a couple minutes.. we went about 15 minutes last night before it got too soft.. i also don't want to tire her out either.. anyone have any experience with any of this?