My ex called tonight

[MyTeddyBear]

I was nine days NC.

He called and said, he missed me & the family... and didn't know if he made the right choice. and blah blah blah,,,,, ya know....

We talked for over 2 hours.

I am so numb from everything.

Why did he call me? to ease his guilt? or loneliness?

 

Damnit...

[annie24]

what exactly did he say? and what does that mean "he doesn't know if he made the right choice?" does that mean he wants to try again?

[MyTeddyBear]

he just said he missed us. He didn't know if it was the right thing to be apart.

and, he said,

wanted to hear my voice and to know I was ok.

 

I feel really numb. I've cried so much these past weeks and been in so much pain. I'm unsure what to do next.

[GottaLetItBurn]

That feeling usually goes away after he releases some sexual tension. As sad as it sounds, I believe he only called because he wants sex.

 

Just thinking about it, most guys in general dont really want to do anything with a woman after sex. Only a man that really loves his wife might still feel something after the release. That's still not likely the case.

 

So now take into consideration this guy dumped you. A guy that came to the conclusion that he doesn't want you. What would change his mind other than sex?

 

Nothing. Don't fall for it, it's cold hard truth. You may think that you know the "real him" because that is what your heart is telling you. This guy isn't for you if he came to the decision just ONCE that he doesn't want to be with you. Ignore him, or don't.

 

It might be best for you just to go back in forth with limited contact just so you can see you will only get hurt. You can't see that it's a bad idea to contact him until you start hurting trying to play his game.