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hello im new to this board. and this is just about the best site i've ever went to. so many comments so many helpful tips

 

my story:

my ex broke up with me 6 months ago, reason was we weren't active anymore, not "lovey dovey" any more. she called it off wanted a mutual break up. and of course it wasnt mutual. i love her but she does not. during the 6 months, (my mistake for not finding this site sooner) i kept trying to get back with her, (attempted about 3 times) . during month # 5 we havent talked for about a month or so, and during that month i met someone new, she was beautiful and all but i didnt see myself with her. then out of the blue my ex emails/calls me to hang out and in my head i was like YES! i think she realizes she misses me (oh i was wrong)... she actually thought i moved on and wanted to be become friends now......... so last night i asked her which was my last attempt, if she is still considering to get together, if not i'd have to "NC" (does that mean no communication?) and cut her out of my life.... she said shes over "us" so i said ok cool . but she said she wanted to be friends i said i can't do that, she wasnt too please about not being friends, and i told her "we cant always get what we want huh?" and thats it.... BUT my question is what are my chances of getting back with her in the future? i can move on if we dont communicate with each other.. but i'd hope we'd get together down the road

 

what are my options? be bold i don't care i want honesty

 

 

thanks in advance

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Welcome to ENA!

 

It's impossible for anyone to predict the future, let alone yours. What I can tell you is you are doing the best thing for you and that is very important. You have realized that staying in touch with her and being her friend would be counter-productive to your healing and moving forward. In the future who knows, she may want you back and you are settled in with someone that you love and that love is unquestionably returned. Get yourself healthy and happy, seek out new opportunities. The one thing you can predict about the future is that it is unpredictable.

 

RC

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that sucks why can't there be a way to work around that ....

 

 

Because you can only control your actions and feelings, not hers.

 

I would delete her from everything and move forward like she never lived. Pictures, momentos any potential shrine material that will inhibit you from moving forward burn it, box it up or throw it away. Healing is about conditioning yourself to realize that you are a great person and the fact that she can't see that right now is her loss.

 

RC

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right now i'm at that stage where i just want to vent.. i wish she had never contacted me.... now that she contacted me shes on my mind ... i want to say so much but its better to be left unsaid cuz it will just get worst and it will just push her away.........

 

my problem is my friends are her friends, and her friends will tell her everything about me... so it doesnt make her wonder what i'm doing.... i blocked and delete her off everything removed everything .......... but see other couples walk around makes me mad......... i just need to vent it out and sleep it through and i decided to post on ena

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