cant get an erection

[dragonzeyez]

Hi there, well, the title of the post speaks for itself. me and my girlfriend tried to have sex for the first time in our relationship today, and well, i was unable to even get an erection for her. i felt so embarressed. The thing is, I believe this was all just nerves. it was at the end of a rather nerve racking day, i met her parents for the first time , which was a HUGE accomplishment. they are the type that are very difficult to please, require a lot out of a man for him to be good enough for there daughter, and put lots of pressure on. I met them in the morning, attended church with them, and then went out to eat with them. needles to say, i was * * * *ting bricks the entire time. when all of that was done, i took her over to my place, we talked with some of my family for a while, and had a good time. when my family left, we got down to business, a lot of making out and foreplay, and then we tried to have sex. and i could not get it up, i even tried masturbating it up, didn't work. my girlfriend is like the most awesome girl in the world though, we talk about everything, she was not mad and she understod completely and is willing to work with me on it. Besides, after i got done trying, i figured i would atleast please her, fingered her and got her off nice and good, so she was still happy. i do not get it though, i have never had this problem withg x girlfriends in the past, and none of them looked anywhere near as good as the one i am with now. even when i got home from dropping my gf off, i tried watching porn and masturbating, and i failed to achieve an erection i do not know if this will make any difference, but i am on 2 medications, one being something called anaprox/naproxen, the other is neurontin, maybe someone has heard of these and can tell me something? i am young and very athletic, not overweight, i do not smoke or drink, or do any type of drugs. can anyone offer me any advice? think it might have been just my nerves from it being such a stressful day?

[pooh-bare]

It probably was just nerves...........Take more time if you need it.........and relax.......... be sure to communicate w/your girl.

[melrich]

Yes i am sure it was nerves and stress. That will do it every time, especially when you are not experienced. You should try next time to plan an occasion where you will be relaxed and feel comfortable.

[LostInMyThoughts]

think it might have been just my nerves from it being such a stressful day?

 

Thats most likely the problem.

 

Just try to put it out of your head, and not dwell on it.

[doyathink]

Have you asked your doc what the possible side effects are? Have you googled to see if you can find this out? It may very well be the meds or your nerves!

[thePuma]

Google says that there are 2,120 results for gabapentin (neurontin) and "loss of libido" as well as 943 results for gabapentin and anorgasmia.

 

Btw, check this conversation: link removed

[sparkle1]

Sounds like nerves to me. But may be a mixture of the med and nerves?

 

Take your time, she sounds like a lovely girl, and you have jumped the hurdles. Its just you two now...so let the good times rock..and the nerves subside....

 

I'm sure you'll be fine in the future, but put this down to a 'one off' otherwise you'll get nervous its gonna happen again...and so the cycle will start.

 

Good luck!

 

p.s i would defo check those med's out - you need to know the side effects of anything you are pumping into your body x

[dragonzeyez]

Google says that there are 2,120 results for gabapentin (neurontin) and "loss of libido" as well as 943 results for gabapentin and anorgasmia.

 

Btw, check this conversation: link removed

 

That conversation does not sit well with me. I am sure it was just nerves. But the problem is, it was the day up to a few hours before we tried to have sex that made me nervous, when we started fooling around and one thing led to another, I did not feel nervous at all, but when she was finally naked on my bed ready to go, nothing, not even a slight erection, and I was not the least bit nervous. Is it possible that being nervous all day long can kind of still loom over your body physically even when you are no longer nervous?

[bobo85]

for guys having their first sexual intercouse experience with another female...a few things will happen

 

either

 

a) you will have an orgasm super fast

b) you can't keep an erection

c) you can keep an erection but cannot orgasm at all

d) you are a lucky one and can keep an erection and orgasm at the right time

 

most guys are a and b so don't even worry. Next time focus on the pleasure instead of pleasuring your gf.

[dragonzeyez]

for guys having their first sexual intercouse experience with another female...a few things will happen

 

either

 

a) you will have an orgasm super fast

b) you can't keep an erection

c) you can keep an erection but cannot orgasm at all

d) you are a lucky one and can keep an erection and orgasm at the right time

 

most guys are a and b so don't even worry. Next time focus on the pleasure instead of pleasuring your gf.

 

I tend to agree normally, but I am worried because of the medication I am taking, Since me and my gf tried to do the deed, I have tried twice (with long periods and rest between each try) to get an erection and have failed both times. I left a message with my doctor asking about the medication I am on and am awaiting a reply from her.

[adeputy4u0506]

Hey man, listen, the same thing happened with my ex at first, I honeslty think its just a thing of nerves and feeling comfortable with that person. Once I became a little more comfortable with my now ex, everything was fair game. Just be cool and it'll work itself out

[Deviant_Kate]

It could be psychosomatic or physiological...I don't know exactly how you'd know this, but do you still get erections in your sleep? That's how the docs figure out if it's physical or mental...if you can still get them in your sleep, it's all in your head.

[dragonzeyez]

well, i talked to my doctor, and she said it was ok for me to not take my meds for one day to see if i could get one. so i tried it, and i did with no problem. but just to make sure that it wasn't just my neves being back under control, i took my meds the next day, and once again stayed limp. so it looks like its the meds, so i will be checking with my doctor again for alternatives.

[sparkle1]

Blimey - bit scary that the meds you were on could do that...you're only a young man...

 

glad the problem seems to be solved.

 

good luck with your sex life - and enjoy it!!

 

hugs xx