abbett Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 ok.......so i'm in a period of growth right now. i'm in a place i've not been in a while. last year, my ltr ended - we'd been together 6 years. we had our friends - most were couple friends......we both knew them and most were married or partnered up like ourselves...... so when we broke up, i found myself with few friends of my own.......single friends at that. so i went out there and i tried to meet people. it seems it worked for a while. i ended up meeting another girl and rushed into a relationship with her - the dreaded rebound. we lasted 7 months and it was rough and not fun, but i guess i stuck with it to avoid being alone. i finally got tired of it and broke up with her.......wanting better for myself. so, after 3 weeks or so, i'm out there trying to make new friends and foster friendships i already have. i don't get it. i email, i phone, i text, i do anything and everything to say, "hi, how are you? what are you up to this week? let's get together sometime. hey, i'm looking to make some new friendships." and i am pleasant, nice, light, charming.......and i get no response! it's not just from one or two people - it's like everyone i try to reach out to! what the heck is that about? is there some kind of cosmic reason? i need friends now more than ever and no amount of good will, politeness, wanting to hang out gestures work! am i poison? Link to comment
TheFallenShadow Posted September 21, 2006 Share Posted September 21, 2006 Yes, i know what you mean about trying to reach out, some one once not to long ago, to open myself up to people,,,,and all that....and in the end it was that same person that has made me slam the door shut on opening up to anyone, cause in the end they only screw you anyways. Link to comment
jeffatl76 Posted September 22, 2006 Share Posted September 22, 2006 Not enough info to give you any real advice... but if I had to guess, I would guess perhaps you aren't being patient enough? Friends take a long time to find.... I should know, I've had to move twice in the last year for work. Just when I thought I was getting somewhere, bam, time to move again. How are you meeting thesepeople that you are attempting friendships with? Do you share common interests? I've found the quickest way to meet people is to focus on an activity you really enjoy and find other people to do it with. Out of all the people you meet through the activity, certainly there will be a few you really click with and can spend time with beyond the given activity. Link to comment
langford Posted October 5, 2006 Share Posted October 5, 2006 why not spend some time with yourself,why do you avoid being alone? people are generally put off by too much in your face keeness i'd say just spend soime time alone,that sense that your at ease by yourself and not "desperate" for friends will be more welcoming . Link to comment
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