parents always arguing- anyone else have this?

[candy604]

Okay I just have to vent. I think my family is nuts. My parents argue every day almost and it's not quiet arguing. It's loud and even my neighbours can hear it. So embrassing...anyone else face this?

 

In our old neighbourhood, about 10 houses can hear them yelling.It's basically my dad b/c he has such a loud voice. I don't know what to do b/c my dad has a really bad temper ( used to throw things around when he was mad, punched my mom before etc..). Calls my mom degrading names sometimes ( like stupid, crazy, nuts,) Very critical.

 

Both my parents come from an abused childhood and my grandparents are terrible parents. Also alot of our relatives ( aunts and uncles) are critical, exagerrate, and they put down my parents.

 

It hurts and sometimes and I don't know what to do.

[stopit]

My parents are like that. It doesn't happen every night, but in weekly (or every-other-week-ly) bouts that last for a few nights. If I put music on the loudest (comfortable) setting on my headphones, I can still hear it. My father does the yelling, but doesn't get physical about it. But ditto on the degrading names bit.

 

Do you feel concerned for your own safety? For your mothers? I know it seems like a habit at this point, like an annoying fleck that has become part of your daily life, but it's not healthy. It has the potential to become something terribly out of control. Domestic violence rates are astonishingly high, but that doesn't make it acceptable. You should talk to a counselor about it to get help. They'll know what's best for your particular situation. If it's more comfortable for you, confide in an adult you can trust and seek help from them.

 

I'm sorry that you're hurting, but if it's any consolation, you're not alone. Being the child in that situation is hard and painful, but you can either wait it out until you move out or do something about it with outside help. Even then, you should get counseling just to learn to cope with your feelings and prevent the cycle from continuing.