Girlfriend and I broke up 5 days ago...

[sanders2021]

We had been dating for a year and a half. She's going to a different college than me (we're both freshmen starting this year) and she thinks that the distance (about two hours apart) will be too much and she just doesn't want to be in a relationship in college. I spent almost every day with her for a year and a half. She would come over to my house every day after school, we'd spend the weekends together, we spent our entire summer together - we were basically inseparable. I seriously don't know what to do. This was my first girlfriend ever and I am extremely emotionally attached to her and to our relationship. I have such an urge to call her and talk to her but I know that she will just get upset and that this will ruin any chance I have of maintaining a friendship with her. I really did love this girl with all of my heart. Please don't rip on me for this, I am seriously not in a good place right now. I have had trouble with depression in the past and I am feeling extremely depressed right now. If anyone could offer some advice or anything, it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, guys.

[hosswhispra]

Hugs, Sanders.

 

This is a tough time for you, no doubt.

 

Everything you're feeling about your break-up is completely natural. You will get through this.

 

If what you and this girl had was true, I believe that it will return.

 

Despite what you're feeling right now, this is a truly exciting time in your life. The college years are a time of great change and maturation. You will meet a ton of new people and make new friends. Please believe this.

 

hosswhispra

[sanders2021]

Hugs, Sanders.

 

This is a tough time for you, no doubt.

 

Everything you're feeling about your break-up is completely natural. You will get through this.

 

If what you and this girl had was true, I believe that it will return.

 

Despite what you're feeling right now, this is a truly exciting time in your life. The college years are a time of great change and maturation. You will meet a ton of new people and make new friends. Please believe this.

 

hosswhispra

 

We are still remaining friends. I talk to her on the phone sometimes (maybe two or three times a week), we text sometimes, we communicate via email, and we talk online. I just miss her very much and we agreed that we would like to keep the door open for something down the road. This just kills me, though. I can't stand being apart from her, and I feel like she's gotten completely over me by now, and may be seeing someone else. This just devastates me. I don't know what to do.

[hosswhispra]

Hang in there, Sanders. You're not alone. You will feel bad for awhile, but in time it won't hurt so much.

 

I have found in my experience, that special people will circle back into your life at different times. If it's meant to be with this girl, it will be.

 

In the meantime, take time to grieve and acknowledge your feelings. They are all normal and natural.

 

However, do not let your sadness consume you. Get out and spend time with your friends, do activities that make you happy.

 

With time, this too shall pass.

 

Hugs,

hosswhispra