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During my first two weeks of college, I've had a great time. However, while going to parties and talking to chicks, one has caught my eye. We both go to the same part of the University (like same school), which has some events for the class of incoming Freshman. I've seen her and talked to her at both of these events, and there are still a few more of these events to go. Also, two of the last three days I've done my running workout, we coincidentally run into each other. This chick is a bit on the protective side, so I came up with an idea to loosen her up a bit, by teasing her and accusing her of "stalking" me (again, a joke lol). At the bottom of this post, I explain my views on my feelings towards her (where the star is).

 

Since I only have her online sn right now, I wa forced to use IM here. I explain to her how some girl is stalking me and while it's interesting and amusing, it's a little odd. I use SPECIFIC EXAMPLES of when this "stalking" occurred - I even quoted something she said when we were talking on one of these trips (to kinda give the hint it was her - why else would she care?). I used a LOT of cokky+funny and made sure w/e I did, not to give her any positive comments/compliments or start drifting from my story.

 

She played along with the entire thing (and gave detailed responses, which beats one-word answers - also was teasing that I may be the one stalking lol...this obivously isn't true), but then all of a sudden she says "You and the stalker you are having all these coincidences with may work out as friends." My facial expression here was like . How the h*ll could she have atleast thought this was me "liking her?" (more in this at the bottom, where there is a star). Basically I kept playing out the whole "stalker" thing like I had no clue what she was inferring and "of course" being friends is fine. Actually, it really is...I don't want/need a gf the 2nd week in college where there are MANY HB's and even having a cool chick friend as social proof OR as a FB if it comes to that is OK too.

 

*I do NOT like her. I do however, view her as someone who would be cool to get to know better. In HS, I didn't know a lot of chicks real well, so establishing this in college seems like a good deal - I'm going to need to know atleast a few girls well for things down the road (not dating, but other things...ways to get into parties, dates to dances, etc.).

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Other than trying to decipher what her response really meant, I am stumped on where her sudden "friends" resposne came from.

 

Possibilities:

 

1.) She is just very smart and great at picking things up with guys. No I was not thinking LTR again, but a date...perhaps.

 

2.) I let something slip during this IM exchange. That did not happen, so I'm counting it out. I gave exactly 0 compliments.

 

3.) I gave a clue prior to this. Probably is the answer, but I'm not sure where or when. The first time I met her in person, I may have talked a little more than I wanted to b/c I didn't really know anyone else there and some other guy was trying to bump me away from her so he could be the one talking to her, so I got a little competitive (just by nature). Also, when I'd talk to her, if I was going up to her, a I would touch arm/shoulder for physical contact, but I did make it seem natural.

 

IN ADDITION, at the time last week, we were made aware of how cool intramural football was, espcially co-ed. Knowing she used to play a sport or two in HS, I asked what she thought of the idea last week. She said maybe at the time (I eventually decided to screw that idea and make a team w/ guys on my floor), but perhaps this was what may have given it away?

 

What do you think? Is she just very smart, or did I flash my hand too soon?

 

EDIT: We are both in a 400+ person Freshman lecture class. Of course, as I'm leaving and on my way back to my dorm, who do I run into...again? Yep, you guessed it - her. We did say hi, but that was it, as both of us were headed back to our dorms (hers is a mile away in the other direction).

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I'm really confused as to what you are really after here.

 

You did a lot of things which were probably intrepreted as flirting by her. Cocky and funny, the running joke with the stalker, TOUCHING her... Is it really any wonder why she is hinting at 'let's just be friends'?

 

I get what you mean - I think I may be a little confused on my intentions as well, although I do know I don't want a LTR.

 

I'll break down your post though:

 

C+F - I do this with many attractive girls, not just ones I have some feelings for.

Joke w/ stalker - I wanted to make light of the situation b/c we ran into each other so many times.

Touching her - I touch girls I don't "like" either...it's normal.

 

I can definitely see where your angle is coming from, but I don't see anything I did as being conclusive. I do think you are correct in her thinking I was flirting with intent towards her as well.

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hmm...contrasting thoughts from ultraviolet and ShroomzGod. Both reasonable options, but which one should I choose?? Hmm... let's see:

 

-USUALLY (like if I was in college for a few months/semster already), I would perfer ShroomzGod's option of "nexting" her if this didn't work. Because I'd be a few months in, I'd know other girls and this one wouldn't mean much to me.

 

-HOWEVER, I can always use the chick friend (or some chick that I know and can talk to) at the very start of college (adds social proof too) like ultraviolet suggested. My campus has a TON of girls, so I think I'll meet a few more along the way as well. As I mentioned before, I kinda missed out on the whole "befriending attractive chicks" thing in high school, so it would be nice to be friends (or friendly) with a few chicks at college, enough so I can just talk to them at any time and it would be normal.

 

And about the PUA thing...I wish lol. 3 years ago, I had little confidence with girls, had no clue what to do and was VERY VERY desperate and needy when it came to trying to get things to work. All it took was a couple harsh rejections in a row and my anger/resentment took me from major "wussy status" to being very (almost too) confident, and yes, using things like C+F. At first I had transformed due to anger, but now I feel more confident overall and the C+F stuff comes naturally. I still don't consider myself a PUA (pick up "artist") though because I haven't made many "crafts" yet.

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It seems you are indeed confused! You say you don't like her but then you say you must have let "something slip" letting her know that you like her. Huh? Can't have it both ways. Chances are if you didn't like her, you wouldn't be posting here about her.

 

Yes I am very confused lol.

 

I don't know what I'm truly thinking right now...it seems I have feelings for her, but also don't want a long term relationship so early in college (two weeks in).

 

And by "let it slip", I meant her thinking I was interested instead of just general flirting...even giving her that idea in her head is what I meant.

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