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What is disturbing to me about this is that you were but 14, or BARELY 15 when you started a relationship with someone so much older.

 

I wonder why he would even want to get involved. Do your parents know about it? Just a serious question.

 

As for the question of do you deserve him, I think an appropriate question is does he deserve you?

 

You say that you dont love yourself. You obsess over your flaws.

Its quite possible your looking for love in the wrong places.

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Spot on and approved.

 

 

What is disturbing to me about this is that you were but 14, or BARELY 15 when you started a relationship with someone so much older.

 

I wonder why he would even want to get involved. Do your parents know about it? Just a serious question.

 

As for the question of do you deserve him, I think an appropriate question is does he deserve you?

 

You say that you dont love yourself. You obsess over your flaws.

Its quite possible your looking for love in the wrong places.

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Hang on a minute...she is already in the relationship, it not good us lot all saying she shouldn't have started it etc, now she is a year and half in!!

 

OK...I think Closure is correct in sayin you are too young for all these developments, however, the fact you are feeling all of these things is proof that even though emotionally you're not ready for it, its happening.

 

I think you do have big insecurities, from where they have come from i do not know. I don't think the age gap is the issue here, i think you have self esteem issues you need to deal with before you'll be truly happy with anyone regardless of age. You need to love yourself before you'll believe anyone else can love you.

 

Why do you not think you deserve him? Everyone deserves someone who makes them feel loved, and special and who helps that person grow. If you are dependent on him to make you feel OK - then that is a issue as you need to be come independent - which at 16 will be hard if not impossible.

 

Men can make you feel a whole array of emotions - even those of us who feel we are super confident and independent women, weaken with love.

 

I do not doubt your feelings for this guy. I just think you are a little young to have such a complex relationship, with all of this stuff whizzing around your head.

 

Do you have other mates of your age who are with older guys? or anyone else you feel you can confide in?

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I wonder why he would even want to get involved. Do your parents know about it? Just a serious question.

 

As for the question of do you deserve him, I think an appropriate question is does he deserve you?

 

You say that you dont love yourself. You obsess over your flaws.

Its quite possible your looking for love in the wrong places.

 

 

Yes my parents know, i guess they thought i could handle it. The thing is i wasnt looking for some 1 else to love me, he jus did...he lied about his age and he said he was 17 when we met, later he told me he was really 21 but he had feelings for me, i thought he was crazy, literally, i dint think it could happen but it did. He knows im still very young but i do believe he loves me and i dont want to leave him at all. I knoe i sound crazy

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Yes my parents know, i guess they thought i could handle it. The thing is i wasnt looking for some 1 else to love me, he jus did...he lied about his age and he said he was 17 when we met, later he told me he was really 21 but he had feelings for me, i thought he was crazy, literally, i dint think it could happen but it did. He knows im still very young but i do believe he loves me and i dont want to leave him at all. I knoe i sound crazy

 

Well its good that your parents know, guess theres nothing more to say about that.

 

He lied to you about his age? That would lead me to think that he knew something was wrong with it...

 

Thats neither here nor there your already in a relationship.

 

What do you think makes you lack confidance? He loves you and wants to be with you.. I have seen your other threads, dont analize it so much and just go with it. If he has given you no reason to mistrust him then give him that trust and enjoy your life.

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