emotional attachment.

[The_Vacancy]

okay, i just wanted to ask a quick question on why i have such strong emotional attachments with some people.

 

i'm not close to my parents, my family, or most people from school. but the friends i do have, and the people i know over the internet i have a real big emotional attachment on for some reason. like i cling on to them.

 

if i don't get something so small as a bye i get upset. and i stay up til 4 am to be able to talk to people. in 48 hours, i've had about 2 hours sleep. i don't know why whenever i meet someone or someone takes me as a friend i cling on to them. when my good mate stopped talking to me for a little while, i actually cried...

 

and it's the same with girlfriends. i am too nervous to commit to another person. i knew a girl 3 years ago, we both liked each other and all we did was hold hands. we never went on a date, it wasn't a proepr relationship yet now 3 years later i think about her, and i get no sleep over it.

 

that's why i am too nervous to fall in love. because i know the outcome is i'm going to end up going through depression and unstable phases for up to 3 years after.

 

so how come i am attached to people so much? i've been told the reason why i hold on to them is because i don't get along with anyone in my family, i'm pushed aside so i seek attention from other people around me because i can't find it from my family. or i don't feel a sense of belonging from them.

 

is there a way to kind of stop the attachment to people?

 

thank you.

[Yvette84]

maybe you're co-dependant like me. read the book co-dependant no more, or talk to a counselor, it can go too far and cause you bondage and emotional stress!!!