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Dating multiple people ... having sex with all?


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Well it's been hard for me to date and share a bed with Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, LL Cool J and Jared Leto at the same time, but somehow I've managed.

 

Oops sorry, that was me daydreaming again....

 

Ok, now a serious response to your post:

 

I do not think it's abnormal/uncommon today, for people to be dating more than one person and sleeping with more than one person. I think the key thing to ask here is: do your sex partners KNOW that you are not exclusive with them and that you are sleeping with others? I think if you are having sex with someone, you should be honest about your behavior.

 

Of course, protection is a huge necessity in that kind of situation, and there are still risks (both physcial and emotional) even with protection.

 

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I'm not trying to come accross as greedy, or selfish, or as a player ... I'm finally single, after spending the past 8 years in two different relationships ... getting my heartbroken in both cases. I'm still learning the dating game ... and curious your thoughts!

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It is all going to depend on a persons options and morals. It is a personal decision to sleep with more than one person at a time but when you are single you have that choice to make. I tend to find that there does tend to be some overlap as far as dating multiple people is concerned and having sex. No matter what you choose to do, you should be safe and realize the risks that you are engaging in.

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I don't think it's too tough to ask. I tend to be blunt though. I don't think it is appropriate to sleep with multiple partners unless all of the partners are aware of the situation. I rarely believe in "implied" knowledge... because, I find that it never works out that two people truly are on the same page unless there has been explicit discussion.

 

As for myself, I don't tend to sleep with multiple people... though I may date multiple people. Once sex gets into the game, I find the interactions with multiple partners to be a tiring juggling act.

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First you embark on the exclusivity line... are we exclusive? yes or no... then, if not, you ask if you are instituting the 'don't ask don't tell' policy concerning each other's liaisons with other poeple. Depending on your level of intimate communication with the person, you could get even more explicit than that if you so choose.

 

There is a difference between "dating" and "going out on dates"... if you are seriously dating someone... then it is to lead up to a monogamous relationship. In that thread, I don't see where there is room for multiple sex partners. If you are just "dating around", then the rules are established by mutual consent.

 

I have asked bluntly if someone is sleeping with other people. "How many partners do you have right now?" The term partner is explicit enough to define 'sex' as being part of the equation.

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i think that guys/girls should say what it is they are looking for. a relationship, sex, or whatever so that one person isn't left in the loop.

 

I agree with that totally. I don't know. Maybe at my age (which isn't too old) people tend to be much more explicit in terms of what they are looking for and are willing to accept. I do remember, back in college, things were much more ambiguous. You pretty well assumed everyone was sleeping around until you made a firm committment to one another. I never felt comfortable with that ambiguity.

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I'm not trying to come accross as greedy, or selfish, or as a player ... I'm finally single, after spending the past 8 years in two different relationships ... getting my heartbroken in both cases. I'm still learning the dating game ... and curious your thoughts!

 

My post was a joke.

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i hope none are friends.Plus sleeping with alot of girls i have done that.But a chance of passing a std around can be pretty cruel.Get reguler clinic visits.Dont be the one to cause someone to have to live with something they cant get rid of.Im not knocking or preaching trust me.i have slept with three different girls in the last three months.Got to be wise though.have fun.Im male 32

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