who should i focus on?

[surf85]

hi,

 

my previous relationship ended in November last year. and ever since, i have been really cautious about settling for any girl just because i am lonely, or like when i feel i need someone. just beecause, my previous relationship was pretty bad as we were too different. so for the past 10 months, i really enjoyed being single, hanging out with my mates, and hanging around different girls.

 

however, after all these months, and plus the fact that i am away from my family, studyin in melbourne, i feel like its time that i find a girlfriend. someone i can confide in, someone that i can be with, someone to be there for me.

 

at the moment, i have 3 girls who i am kind of interested in, and who i have got abit closer recently. I am really confused who should i spend more time with, put in effort to get a relationship going.

 

one girl, i am really attracted to her physically. and she has an awesome, angelic personality. however, she has a boyfriend. and i wonder if i should even interfere with her relationship.

 

another girl, she loves the outdoors, loves surfing. also, she appreciates art. which is a very important quality. i like girls who appreciate nature, sports and art. i have gotten to know her abit, but not much yet.

 

the last girl, i feel really comfortable with her. she is asian as well, so perhaps thats why culturally, we share common grounds. hoowever, she isnt that into sports or arts. and for some reason, maybe i am inclined to dating someone from another background culturally, just that i would like to experience something different. perhaps the adventurous side of me showing.

 

so what should i do? should i even purposely search for a girlfriend, or should i just let things take its own course, and see what happens?

[lost_status]

one girl, i am really attracted to her physically. and she has an awesome, angelic personality. however, she has a boyfriend. and i wonder if i should even interfere with her relationship.

Hell no!! Never mess with anyones relationship! Im sure you wouldnt like it. Its a very bad idea!

 

I think you should get to know the other girls and maybe even start meeting new people.

 

Good luck

[PaulMn]

#1 is not really available.

 

#2 sounds like what you want, but you have to find out if your personalities match, not just your interests.

 

#3 seems more familiar, but I know I have more in common with some people from the other side of the planet than I do with people from 'home', so don't let ethnic or cultural similarities be the deciding factor.