dreynolds Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 I've posted a few times in here - venting and trying to understand my current relationship breakup. She ended things 3 weeks ago saying she was confused, emotions everywhere, etc.... My sister wrote her a few days later, to talk to her about stuff - she said the exact same thing to her that she said to me...and added that she wasn't ending the relationship. My sister replied telling her there was a huge misunderstanding, and that we both needed to sit down and talk about this. She never replied - and she never contacted me. I haven't heard from her since the day she left my apartment - and my birthday was a few days ago, she didn't bother contacting me at all for that either. However - she has forwarded my sister an email joke this week...and then the next day she forwarded pictures of the new puppy she just bought herself....she has never emailed my ssiter before -and she still has never sent anything. So my sister and I are trying to understand her thought process here - if she wants nothing to do with me, and completely ignores me like this - and she wasn't best friends with my sister - why does she keep my sister in the email loop? My sister is pissed off with her actions - and she thinks this girl has some serious issues....wants to tell her to stop emailing her...but I said just to leave it alone. What is going on? I don't get it.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meow18 Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 She broke up with you and you had your sister email her about it? She probably feels like your sister cares about her now and wants to be there for her. I mean, that's probably what I would think if I was your ex and I got an email asking all about it. But yet, your ex she still wants to remain broken up with you and maybe sees no reason for sitting down and talking with you. In my opinion, you just need to try to move on. Forget about her for now. If your sister really doesn't want to get emails anymore, maybe she should try ignoring them at first. If they continue, then your sister can just politely say she doesnt' want to get them anymore. But there's no reason for your sister to be rude. Your sister got herself involved when she emailed your ex.. so it's not exactly your ex's fault.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreynolds Posted September 7, 2006 Author Share Posted September 7, 2006 No, i didn't have my sister email her - my sister and her got along, became friends - but never emailed each other. When I told my ssiter what happeneded, a few days my sister wrote to her herself because she honestly believed she was confused, scared, felt things moved too fast, etc....and offered to talk if she needed someone to talk to.....and that I didn't known about the email, to not say anything to me or else I would be ticked.... She then replied saying her bit - everything she said to me - and that I was a great guy and she wasn't ending the relationship, she wanted to take time to get to know each other better - which is not what she talked to me about. Which is why my ssiter said that her and I had to talk.... After a short time passed - and I heard nothing from her, my sister told me about the email she sent, and told me because she couldn't believe that I never heard a word from her. She couldn't care less about me or my feelings - Now, 2 weeks after that.....my sister is now getting jokes from her, and the latest is an email with pictures of the new puppy she bought....not talking or saying anything, just sending STUFF.....I mean - she must know my sister will tell me "...she got a puppy"....or whatever.....it's like she's trying to hurt me by ignoring me completely....i did nothign to deserve that....at least that's how it feels to me. She can't be bothered to say "happy birthday" - but sends my sister pictures of her new puppy.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meow18 Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 Well I can understand why you are hurt. But you need to try to stop thinking about what she is thinking. You just don't know what's going through her head and chances are unless she decides to tell you, then you won't know. Maybe she is trying to hurt you. Maybe she just trusts that your sister is emailing her because they were once friends. Whatever the case, you deserve better than that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreynolds Posted September 7, 2006 Author Share Posted September 7, 2006 Thanks - and I know I have to let go - it's just the type of guy I am, that's all. Based on her actions the past short while - my family things she has mental issues or something, because you just don't behave that way. I'm just happy I did nothing - I sent her a text message a few days afterward that said I missed her - but that was it. I rather her think I've gone on with my life, and she doesn't need to know or think that I'm going through the feelings I am. It's amazing how relationships really do a number on some people - and yet others, ah well - NEXT.....Truth is - i don't ever want to be one of those "NEXT" type of people.....because I think it means more....I THINK! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momene Posted September 11, 2006 Share Posted September 11, 2006 Now MAYBE I'm lettting my own experiences bias my judgement BUT one explanation for this is there could be a 3rd party. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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