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Hello, kind of a long question....hoping to get some advice:

Would you guys stay with your new girlfriend (whom you love to death) of almost two months if she had recently told you, out of guilt and for the sake of honesty, that she had recently slept with her X? It was a rough breakup with the X and she says she's no longer in love with him...

She is crushed with guilt and remorse...

However her and the X were best friends for a long time...and now NC.


Admittedly, I'm looking at this from the point of view of the X...I feel used and hurt becasue she was leading me on after having broken up over a period of a few weeks. I have posted the story on another topic page, but am just trying to find peace of mind. I have no hope for the relationship and am lurching ahead, moving on...looking back in anger...





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So, let me get this straight. You are the ex and she is with someone new? And you want to know if her new boyfriend should break up with her for sleeping with you?


Honestly, I don't know. That would have to be up to the new boyfriend. But why do you care anymore? I mean, I know you probably still have feelings for her but she's moved on with her life and you need to do the same for yourself.


Keep up with the no contact. It will help a lot. And try to keep your mind off of what she might be doing and with who cause that will only make you crazy. Go out with friends and have fun! You deserve it.

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You are not being immature. And you are not wasting anyone's time! You are asking for help, and we are choosing to help you. So, please don't think that. That's definitely not what this site is about.


You care about her and what's going on in her life. And it's hard to just stop yourself. I can understand that because I've been where you are before.


All you can do is try. You need to try to keep no contact. You need to try to not care. And you need to try to focus on other positive things.


None of that is easy. Break ups never are, but as long as you try, you will get over her with time!


If you ever need anything, you can PM me.

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