It's always something

[mlchildr]

It seems like in my relationship it is always something. We used to never go a day without speaking to each other but lately we will go days b/c of arguments. The latest is that he has the friend who is a girl. He is 29 and she is 30 married with 2 kids. He met her through work. He says she is the sister that he never had. I finally met her and she is just not the type of person I would choose to hang out with. I'm not going to tell him who he can be friends with but I have observed some things for her that says she wants more than firends. Before i met her they had planned to have lunch....funny thing is the same day I asked him to lunch and he told me he had to help his buddy hang sheet rock. Then i hear him checking his messages and her voice saying what a nice time she had at lunch...I questioned him asking why he could take her to lunch but lie and tell me he had to hang sheet rock. Then I meet her and ask her about it. Her husband was around and she asked me if I could please not say anything to her husband about it b/c he didn't know either. If they are just frienda why are they hiding this. The first time I met her she made the comment that everyone in her office thinks my boyfriend is hot expect her and she didn't think that I was the type of girl he would date. She only calls him why she's at work...why can't she call him from home probably b/c she doesn't want her husband to know. I have a gut feeling there is something else going on. Over the weekend my boyfirend met her and her husband at the lake...i didn't go we had beed fighting...she said that i was petty and childish for not coming...WHATEVER and my boyfriend just goes along with her. At least stand up for me. She talks to my boyfriend about her sex life with her husband and all kinds of stuff. I finally said something to him about all of this. Needless to say we aren't speaking.. He thinks I am telling him who he can be friends with.....I don't know what to do.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Okay, your boyfriend is way out of line and so is this other woman. It sounds very suspicious. They may not be cheating physically at this point but certainly there is emotional cheating going on. If you can't get through to him that his "friendship" with has crossed inappropriate bounds, you need to remove yourself from him and let him see what life is like with no girlfriend and being the bit on the side for a married woman. He is going down a bad road and you need to remove yourself from that road. This woman is disrespecting you and her husband. What goes around comes around. They are both smug now, but wait until they have to deal with the fallout.

[jazzgirrl]

I have a gut feeling there is something else going on. Over the weekend my boyfirend met her and her husband at the lake...i didn't go we had beed fighting...she said that i was petty and childish for not coming...WHATEVER and my boyfriend just goes along with her.

 

Trust your gut. The lake outing sounds like a front that she and your boyfriend concocted so the husband wouldn't get wind of their relationship. It would give them a chance to be together...even though they also had to be with the people they didn't want to be with (namely you and the husband)

 

I wonder if her husband is suspicious?

 

Personally, if you ever get another opportunity for one of these "outings" -- I would go and observe the relationship between her and her husband.

[flower99]

Okay, your boyfriend is way out of line and so is this other woman. It sounds very suspicious. They may not be cheating physically at this point but certainly there is emotional cheating going on. If you can't get through to him that his "friendship" with has crossed inappropriate bounds, you need to remove yourself from him and let him see what life is like with no girlfriend and being the bit on the side for a married woman. He is going down a bad road and you need to remove yourself from that road. This woman is disrespecting you and her husband. What goes around comes around. They are both smug now, but wait until they have to deal with the fallout.

 

Perfectly put....I completely agree with everyword of this!!!