Improving

[Belgian girl]

Hey there,

has anyone more ideas how to improve myself (I've already made a topic to Improve my outside) now I'm still searching for things that are usefull, to give me more a goal, things that has to be done, things to be a better me, things that are good/healthy, gives me more chance that my ex get intested ,..

 

If somebody has an idea, no matter what kind, please drop it here

Thanks in advance..

 

Things I've already started:

 

1. Jogging every evening about 40minutes

2. More social contacts (to go jogging with)

3. Found a studentjob (studentrestaurant)

4. Found a place to baby-sit (+half an hour cycling to it, half an hour to cycle back)

5. Eating healthy (but guess makes it expensive

6. Trying to sleep more regulary

7. Spending enough time at my studies

[rose2summer]

8. Understanding who you are and what makes you happy

That is the MOST complicated and difficult task of all

 

9. Read the Power of Intention, it's about getting what you want out of life.

That book has helped me tremendously, as it discusses what mindset you need to reach your goals/aspirations.

[sumguy]

It wont matter what you look like on the outside unless you're happy with yourself on the inside - it's funny how often a cliche' is true. If the running and cycling make you feel better, then power to you, but if not you're going to need to fix yourself emotionally first.

 

I find lists help me organize things, list what makes me happy, memories of the last times I felt truly happy, observational journal's ect... Like Rose2Summer's step 8.

[Belgian girl]

8. Understanding who you are and what makes you happy

That is the MOST complicated and difficult task of all

 

9. Read the Power of Intention, it's about getting what you want out of life.

That book has helped me tremendously, as it discusses what mindset you need to reach your goals/aspirations.

 

Yeah but if I would be in his position (exbf.) perhaps I can't find so many things he (or another boy) could interest, I mean it are especially things I do alone it seems. No idea what could be interesting in me (or general a girl).

 

Where can I find the book? Also in a liberary, you think? Or pieces of it on the internet? Thank you!

 

@Sumguy, perhaps I don't feel fully happy from the inside b/c I have more energy and possibilities then I use, but I don't know that to do with it. It's like my life isn't complete (except from that bf probably ) and that I should take more out of my life or do more things that are usefull/with a reason or something for my future

[talo]

has anyone more ideas how to improve myself

It's like my life isn't complete

How about the idea that you do not need improvement.... And that the very idea that you need improvement is the very idea (belief) that you are not complete, adequate, sufficient.

[Belgian girl]

hmm yeah perhaps..

but improvement is a good think it seems to me? And I feel like having more energie to do something usefull. I don't really like going out by the way. I like my studies etc. but I want to earn more money and train my body and get usefull social contacts and if there are other things that could be usefull I would like to know as well.

For ex. I still need to go for my driving licence. But after that.. I'ld still search for something..

Thanks for answering!

[talo]

To me, the idea that I need to improve, is just someone's idea of how I should be. This does not mean that I do not find things interesting or fun, and sometimes these interesting and fun things change the idea of who I am. Is this improvement? Perhaps only if someone approves of it

[Belgian girl]

hmm yeah I understand.

Maybe I should better call/see it as things to develop myself. But I would also like to find things that could make me more interesting. I mean, somebody who's social and has a lot of interests and knows the latest news about things, will be found more interesting to more people than someone who stays inside his/her own world and having the same thoughts like all the time. Or if somebody could give me ideas for things that gives me more possibility to talk with people about, keep in touch, take more out of my life, earn money, become more healthy, doing something another could be proud of, an extra goal, making it a little harder for myself,.. I'ld like to hear as well.

Thanks for answering..

[Donster]

A good book is 7 habits of highly effective people, by steve covey (sp?).

 

Another way to improve yourself is to learn about as many different things as possible. new cultures. History. other religions. enrich yourself!!

[PrincessJOA]

I understand how you feel exactly. Went through the same thing a moment in time before. Really its a matter of perception I think, you dont really have to have an eventful plan to make you think this is the way to improve yourself. If you do things with great love, it doest matter what you do at all But, I guess, it does make you feel like a brand new person for engaging in new activites and new experience. Well, maybe you should consider doing some charity work. Its not easy, but its worth it when you know you physically did something to make the world a better place to live in.

[PrincessJOA]

Charity work. I've been through that stage and charity work is the only thing that makes me feel content with myself. But theres more to life than just helping too, I guess it really depends on what your dream is

[Belgian girl]

What you two are saying is like were I'm longing to. I try to know more people and in that way I also learn a little bit more of different lifestyles. Learning more about different cultures and history sounds very interesting as well, thank you.

I don't know so well how to get in touch with charity work and which kind. By staying healthy and buying biologic I'm also a little bit helping for a good world I guess (not meant as an excuse not to do extra effort to help other people).

If anyone finds other things to do please let me know.

Also things that could make me more interesting (for ex. what kind of things gives a girl more chance to be someone interesting?), what is the next thing in life that has to be done (like driving licence, earn money, studies),..

Thanks for answering..

[Belgian girl]

Or maybe tell me about your (no mather who) goal in your life, or what makes you give a satisfied feeling about yourself or what really makes you happy or in which way you mean something for somebody else or what you still want to do or reach in your life or about what kind of thing you've done you can say you feel proud

[PrincessJOA]

Well, personally, I dont really have just one specific goal in life. I have a sh*t load of them.lol, but I guess now, I feel most strongly towards my goal of breaking free from this place I'm in now and just move to somewhere farrrrrrrrrrrrrr away, into a real busy city, and start all over again with the kind of life I would rather have. So yeah, nothing out of the ordinary or anything. It might take a couple of years til I finally feel I'm financially and mentally secured to make that step. But in the meantime, I'm just living up to every opportunity that lands before me, and just try to look for more. e.g. competitions, auditions, workshops, training etc... it comes in many forms. And everytime I did one of the above, I'll feel satisfied, like I didnt live for nothing you know? I dont know whether I make sense to you, but thats what I literally meant

[Belgian girl]

Thanks for your reply. For me there's nothing in it to use in my life I think but for you I understand that it would be nice!

So if somebody has inspiration.. please leave a reply..

Thank you!

[Belgian girl]

Or I guess a mid-life crisis would feel a little like this (but even more), so perhaps people who've gone trough that who can telle me what they did with it?