It's ending tonight- Need to decide how

[StandTall]

I won't get into details about my 8 month relationship, but here's what it comes down to:

 

We have a 13 year age difference, her being older. We both have told one another that we are in love, but have acted otherwise. I hurt her as she found me e-mailing someone, although I never would have actually allow myself to go through with anything. She forgave me, but we have been having a difficult time since. She had asked me if I was on any dating websites, and I told her no. It peaked my curiosity, and I found her on there now. I really do care about her, but things clearly need to end. What is the best way to go about this? Strangely enough, I hope that a friendship can somehow emerge down the line as I care about her. I feel that she was a really great person, and my behavior caused her to do what she did. She was just telling me how much she loves and cares about me yesterday. Sad. =(

[Lil-un]

Dont get all scared of splitting with your partner.... If you dont feel right, u cant be in a relationship with them. Just tell her that you cant be together bacause you think you will be better apart, or you want to move on, or some other excuse.

 

You cant really describe how you feel you just know its right.

Also when you are split up it may take a while for a friendship to develop... things might get a bit bitter. Spesh if you keep going back to them.

 

I went back to my bloke after I split with him because he was blackmailing me with "I really miss you" and "I think you are so special". Stupidly I got back with him. THings where good for 3 days. then returned tothe way it was.... the next time I dumped him I simply told him to bugger off (long story)

 

In the end a short sweet ending is always better than dragging it on for ages... Think about it carefully...if you want to finish with her do so.... and try not to feel bad about it

 

safe!

[StandTall]

I just don't feel like driving down there and dealing with the tears and the drama again. I've been really sad, and have a business trip coming up I need to focus on.

[StandTall]

I told her it was over by phone, and she refused to hear of it. Later, she asked me to drive down there to talk about things. I have been through that so many times, and couldn't do it again. She then told me that I was no better than her ex-boyfriend who she has complained about since we met. It hurt that she thinks of me that way, and I kind of lost respect for her because of how nasty she became. I am trying to tell myself that it is because she is hurt, but trying to hurt me isn't fair. Do I take her calls today? I leave for a one week business trip tomorrow, and don't really wnt to take this on the road. I wrote her a heartfelt e-mail about how I love her, but that we keep hurting eachother repeatedly, and I don't want to hurt anymore. She blows it off and calls me mellow-dramatic. "Sigh"