I don't know anybody...I am such a loner!

[lostjeff]

I'm 26 and I only have a few friends! I just can't believe this...I spend almost every weekend alone or with family. I have 2 or 3 good friends, and a bunch of aquitances, but man, I feel like I am missing out on so much. This can't be life. There is no spontinaity, no stories. Life seems so pointless. My one good friend tells me about all the times he's hooked up with girls, how hes gone to parties, and how he has buddies all over the place. I see people together all the time around me, talking about things. People on their cell phones, talking.

 

Well, * * *, am I some kind of freak? I haven't even kissed a girl. And he's 3 years younger than me. I have been avoidant in the past, but I'm getting better. I am being more sociable, but I still have almost nothing. Almost no network. Just a few friends on myspace, and only a few of them respond to my mesasges. I am not sure if I should even go to my high school reunioun. The few people I know there will probably not know me, because I was shy back then and a nobody. Where do I go from here?

[renaissancewoman101]

Go out and do things. Get involved in some clubs and activities (stuff you are interested in). Talk to people at these gatherings.

 

If you circulate around, you are bound to make friends.

 

Now, I need to listen to my own advice

[allgood]

man just go out and join clubs and stuff. do sports like boxing, martial arts or muay thai, travel with a package where u go in groups. volunteer even, join a charismatic christian community, join a gym. Man just do more things and you'll meet other people. its just getting out there and not caring what other people think but make sure your not offending anyone.

keep improving man!!!!! i was shy too, but im improving, building up my slef esteem and stuff. that was a year ago and im so happy i made that decision to tackle it.

 

all the best

[Diablo7000]

hey dude, alright listen to this, i have some friends but am single, you can meet new people, alota people will let you talk to them, but if you really want to meet sum girls, go to a dance club and grind dude jsut go up to a girl and ask if she wants to dance, if she does get behind her and she does alota the work, put ur hands on ehr hips and move with her and the beat of music, my first time tonight, and it was awsome, i wanna go back, but jsut go do stuff, clubing is deffinately the best, cas i bet there was over 700+ people there, so jsut go for it man

[heloladies21]

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[lostjeff]

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Those sites are some of the most gayest sites on the net. Yes, there are nuggets of inspiration in some of them, but the vast majority of it is crap and a waste of time.

[lostjeff]

man just go out and join clubs and stuff. do sports like boxing, martial arts or muay thai, travel with a package where u go in groups. volunteer even, join a charismatic christian community, join a gym. Man just do more things and you'll meet other people. its just getting out there and not caring what other people think but make sure your not offending anyone.

keep improving man!!!!! i was shy too, but im improving, building up my slef esteem and stuff. that was a year ago and im so happy i made that decision to tackle it.

 

all the best

 

Man, I went to the gym for the past year and I didn't make any friends. I made aquaintances. Those are easy. But friends? It seems impossible, and the only girls who will socialize with me are the ones with a ring on their finger.

 

I can make a whole list of things I want to do or learn, and meeting people and making aquaintances would be an easy, ancillary objective. But friends? Hardly anyone wants to be friends, because they don't have time or the inclination. How can I make friends with people??

[heloladies21]

Those sites are some of the most gayest sites on the net. Yes, there are nuggets of inspiration in some of them, but the vast majority of it is crap and a waste of time.

Yeah those sites are pretty dumb, but as soon as I started checkin em out I began hookin up like crazy. Every guy I tell about em gets better with girls, but hey you gotta do what works for you I guess

[candy604]

how about your work place? or can your buddies introduce you to some people? hang out with them??

 

do some volunteering or join a social club. I'm sure those are around.

[Momene]

When you're in your situation, it seems like everyone else is having lots of fun and you're the only one who isn't. You are not some kind of freak as there are millions of people of both sexes all over the world who are just like you. You don't mention work. Do you meet anyone at/through work? You meet someone friendly. Do you exchange e-mail addresses or arrange to meet?

 

I agree that going to pubs/bars/dance clubs alone is pretty intimidating and scares me to death but sometimes it's knowing that someone is open.

 

Are you only considering girls within a narrow age band? How would you feel about dating someone much older/younger or from a different race? For example, my wife is 8 years younger and foreign. Yes, we've had our bad times but we've been together 17 years.

 

Like to chat online? Well (for example) I get busy sometimes and don't get in touch but I usually reply to messages. I can't say I'm an expert but I was a nerd at school and it can be overcome. I don't out of respect for my wife and daughter but even at nearly twice your age I could still pull if I wanted to, so if I can you can.

 

Good luck.