mkmki Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 My ex broke up with me 4 days ago (after 4 jear relationship) and now she is seeing someone... And I can't be less bothered by it! Im not jelous even when she tells me she's seeing him... When I think how they'll have sex... I feel nothing towards her! We ware engaged! Does that mean that I didn't felt anything (but I cried and you know what for the past 4 days, but today I feel strange), that I was afraid of being the dumpee or what? Is this normal? Am I normal? Does that have anything to do with the fact she cheated on me (with someone third...)? The fact that she cuted her beutiful long black hair and painted it blue (well she's natural blonde but...)? I'm afraid of this! (not exactly but you got the point) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
friscodj Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 My friend, this is completely normal. You are in the stage right now where you are just happy to be free and the reality of the situation has not hit you yet... If you guys were together for 4 years and engaged, my friend I say this with all the sympathy in my heart, you will grieve and grieve hard over this at some point. That was an epic and deep attachment regardless of the circumstances surrounding it... We'll be here for you when that time comes... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mkmki Posted August 31, 2006 Author Share Posted August 31, 2006 Thanks, but I hope that it will not happen... : ) But I was dieing last ten days (since she cheated on me), and was rotting in Hell this 4 days... I just hope this will just go away the way it camed... (pain, it camed suddenly and went suddenly and I hope that its gone...) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
friscodj Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 Four years together and engaged...you will suffer like you've never suffered before I suspect...but you'll be just fine... Step one is not being afraid of nor denying this fact... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melrich Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 Four years together and engaged...you will suffer like you've never suffered before I suspect... I don't necessarily agree. I have seen this happen before in longish relationships, in fact it happened to me once. The relationship had run its natural course and just ended. Both parties understood that now was the time to go their separate ways. I am not saying that is what is going on here but it could be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iamteddybearfeelmecuddle Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 Maybe the reason you guys aren't together anymore is because you two had already grown apart so much, that you don't really care about eachother much anymore. So maybe the break up is just meant to be. My experience with relationships has been that the length of time I spend with someone has very little to do with how strongly I feel for them. If anything, sometimes over time, you realize they are just not the right person for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mkmki Posted August 31, 2006 Author Share Posted August 31, 2006 My experience with relationships has been that the length of time I spend with someone has very little to do with how strongly I feel for them. If anything, sometimes over time, you realize they are just not the right person for you. Thaks again cute_teddy!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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