second_opinion Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 I think Im sex obessed, yet Im a virgin! I feel like im always um... 'turned on'. I always think about having sex and there have been times where I have watched porn!! Im so embrassed, I havent told anyone becuase everyone thinks Im a sweet innocent 20yr old girl. I masterbate nearly everyday, yet Im still horney... any ideas on what I can do? I want to have sex with my boyfriend but Im not comfortable being naked nor am I ready to go on the pill. Im a medical student and I know that the pill isnt good for a woman, its way too early for me to go on it, I rather wait til I get married than go on it so im not on it for too long before deciding to have children. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robowarrior Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 Its ok to have sex with someone who you love, that's perfectly normal. However you say your not ready so the advice is to wait. Yeah the pill isn't great but i heard positive things too, and most woman use them for years and are still alive so it can't be that bad. That way you can enjoy your partner without being afraid of getting kids, although the pill isn't 100% and you should still have your bf wear condoms, but only have sex when your ready, or after you have comitted yourself to your bf when married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
second_opinion Posted August 28, 2006 Author Share Posted August 28, 2006 yeh, i will wait... but Im always so turned on, its really bad! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AzureSkyes69 Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 Don't feel bad evryone has diffrent sex drives..seems since your so "turned on " all the time you must have a high sex drive like myself,I also masterbate at least every other day..or so. I am constantly thinking about sex however I am not a virgin like you are...but unlike you I have no partner. If I did have a partner and I was sexual with them I would wear them out I am sure. They would have to be like me always touchy feely,always hugs & kisses, always ready. Nobody knows this about not even my closest friends..in fact one male friend in particular..my fantasies are mostly about him,because I love him. It is not returned however his feelings...but I can dream. As far as having sex with your boyfriend when it feels right for you ,you will want to be with him intimatly.there is no rush you should do it when u feel ready,and if he really loves you he will wait. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 The current medical knowledge is that the pill has certain benefits to women and it is well known that once you go off it it does not affect fertility even if you've been on it for years and there is some knowledge that it can have a positive impact. true, it might take a few months after going off to have your cycle and ovulation back to normal, but that is easy to plan for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennster Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 I was the same way when I was 20 HAHAHA I was a virgin until I was 24. I went on the pill when I was 23 and guess what? The pill actually slowed my sex drive A LOT...I mean I can still get in the mood now but the pill really helped me curb the cravings...so it might be worth getting on the pill for that benefit alone - although not all women experience lower sex drive...but I know many do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Day_Walker Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 I dont know why you are placing limits on your sexual activity already. Birth control has been used for over 30 years and of course there are side effects, but thats a personal decision that you need to make. The bigger issue is that you have a self image problem. These arbitrary limits are what is hurting you, there are other options besides birth control besides the pill, such as condoms, so the real issue is that you are not comfortable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hosswhispra Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 First off, YOU'RE feelings are completely normal. Hormonal contraception can decrease the risk of ovarian cancer, BUT it can increase the risk of breast cancer. Everyone has choices; you just have to choose what is right for YOU. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yeawutever Posted November 12, 2006 Share Posted November 12, 2006 I like palying with myself almost everyday too and porn films (of a couples or seeing naked men) do turned me on. Like you, I'm also a virgin and almost got tempted with my b/f few days ago, but I stopped myself and basically told him I still wasn't ready for it, which is true I'm not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AwdreeHpburn Posted November 12, 2006 Share Posted November 12, 2006 Isn't part of the reson you are abstaining cultural though? I mean you are naturally more obsessed because it is forbidden, yeh? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
second_opinion Posted November 12, 2006 Author Share Posted November 12, 2006 Isn't part of the reson you are abstaining cultural though? I mean you are naturally more obsessed because it is forbidden, yeh? I am abstaning because of culture. Im not sure if its making me more obessed because its forbidden, Im not sure. Its so hard not to have sex, I could have had done it by now but I think about my parents and the whole culture thing. At first I used to say it was a body image thing but Ive come to realise I was making up excuses and my body has nothing to do with it. I feel like I have a sexy body, especially when I maintain things. So its not a body thing at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quietgrl Posted November 12, 2006 Share Posted November 12, 2006 I like palying with myself almost everyday too and porn films (of a couples or seeing naked men) do turned me on. Like you, I'm also a virgin and almost got tempted with my b/f few days ago, but I stopped myself and basically told him I still wasn't ready for it, which is true I'm not. Ailec, you masturbate almost everyday.I would be worn out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yeawutever Posted November 12, 2006 Share Posted November 12, 2006 Ailec, you masturbate almost everyday.I would be worn out. Yea it's fun, though some days I'm more arouse than others. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FiredandHurt Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 You know how many guys masturbate everyday? tons! You are normal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AdriSnow Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 I was like that to when I was a virgin. Now that I'm not it really isn't on my mind now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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