Question for women

[loveless22]

I am in a new relationship but it is a long distance relationship We have talked to eachother on the phone every day for the last 2 months, she would call me or I would call her, but this last week it feels like I am the one always calling her, her tone of voice has kind of changed as well, I am going to visit her this weekend and she says shes excited about me coming. Should I stop calling for a few days? Do you find guys who call too much a turnoff? Do you think her feelings have changed or is this standard since we've talked so much already?

[DN]

I would change nothing until you actually meet her and then you will have a better chance to evaluate things.

[NJRon]

I would think that if she found it a turnoff, it wouldn't suddenly cause an issue two months down the road. Sometimes people just seem distant... there are so many potential reasons that you should definitely folllow DNs advice in the meantime. Besides, she told you she was excited... take her at her word.

[_Just_a_girl]

Should I stop calling for a few days? Do you find guys who call too much a turnoff?

 

When you really like someone, or at least when I do...I want them to call. I like talking to them everyday..even if it's just for a minute. I'm not saying like 10 times a day or anything...or asking "why didn't you answer the phone?" I know as time goes on, and you get used to being with that person...there may be days that you don't talk every day.

 

None the less... phone calls are a good thing.

[itsallgrand]

loveless22, no worries friend. Give her a call to confirm the meeting before you go to see her. Other than that, just let it be.

 

She's probably busy buying a new outfit and getting prepared to see you.

 

Good luck and have fun. Hope it goes well.

[Shadows Light]

There could be a myriad of reasons. She just could be wrapped up in her work, home life etc. or maybe she's putting the breaks on because things are getting deep.... don't assume. Go out this weekend and have fun.

[DBL]

I personally would stop calling. I don't like to be anybodies punk. I would not call and see if she contacts me. If she don't...then I don't visit her.

 

Have you ever met her before?

 

DBL

[loveless22]

Thanks for the replies, I didnt call her for a couple days but she called me tonight and told me how much she misses me. She was not feeling well earlier in the week so that was the reason. I think I have self esteem issues and cannot realize why someone so great is interested in me in the first place, so if some time goes by I convince myself that shes over me and make myself sick about it. Yes, I have met her, we met in vegas actually, instantly clicked and spent three great days together. I dont know what to do to stop myself from assuming the worst, I sound like a loser I know. I've just never felt this way about someone so quickly and intensely before. Anyways everythings great for the moment, I think part of my problem is that I am always looking ten miles down the road for something to go wrong, maybe I'm too much of a pessimist.

[NJRon]

Yeah, LDRs are difficult when you are pessimistic. While you don't need to be floating all over the place, try to assume the best.

[rikka]

^^^ yeah, what he said. ^^^

 

Seriously, you have to have faith/trust in yourself, her and your relationship if you want it to succeed. Secondly, talking isn't always communication (meaning, if you are having concerns, you should feel free to voice them to her - and vice versa). Communication is key in LDR.

[Momene]

It could be a yellow flag but wait until you see her.