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My gf and I have became very comfortable with eachother. However she seems a bit insecure about herself and where I look. Touching isn't any big deal with her... she gives me oral very often and I want to return the favor. How can I bring this up... she has suggested a few things herself and been comfortable to try new things. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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You could always just inquire about how she might like it if you could "return the favor" because you would "very much enjoy it" and dont forget to remind her of how "amazingly beautiful and sexy" she is to ease her self conscioussness. The trifecta!!

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I disagree, I think a lot of people make the mistake of not knowing what their partner wants or what they would be comfortable with during sex. What if he just goes for it and she becomes very uncomfortable, I would say that would be a rather large turn off. I am not saying you have to ask DURING sex lol. Then again you can always try and use your instincts, if you have good reason to believe that she would like it then why ask.

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Be assertive! Don't ask tell! If you can see from her reaction that she doesn't want you too, then you can ASSERTIVELY bargain out of it without ruining the mood... eg...

 

Look her dead in the eyes... "I am going to kiss you,.... here" (placing hand down there).

 

She shifts uncomfortably "I'm not really into that...." she says.

 

"Well" you say "Then I guess I am going to have to please you in another way...."

 

Cmon guys be assertive! Being assertive is not asking questions, its reading non-verbal cues and changing tact. This person is your PARTNER. You trust them, they trust you. Add a bit of spice by showing your partner how much you like them, how attractive they are, let the animal out in you occasionally.

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Ill say it again, its not like I mean you have to ask DURING SEX. You can still be assertive in the way you go about doing it, but if you talk about it at some other time I dont see why you shouldnt avoid making her uncomfortable if you think she may be. Its not porn, not everybody is into the same things even if they seem standard. You can ask subtly if you want or you can barge in, maybe she will like one way maybe another. I guess it all depends on your judgement of her.

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I recomend bringing it up in a casual way and seeing what she says about it, not during sex, but during regular conversation......."you know what I have been wanting to try?" etc.

 

Then during sex just kiss your way down looking at her if she looks uncomfortable start kissing back up.......does that make sense?

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