inspiration Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 My gf and I have became very comfortable with eachother. However she seems a bit insecure about herself and where I look. Touching isn't any big deal with her... she gives me oral very often and I want to return the favor. How can I bring this up... she has suggested a few things herself and been comfortable to try new things. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Link to comment
PRSOV Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 Ummm... why don't you be kissing her and slowly make your way down south? You don't have to ask Link to comment
NKP Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 Yes i agree with PRSOV, dont ask just started to go down, she will love it Link to comment
friscodj Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 You don't have to ask Agreed. Let the passion speak louder than your words... Link to comment
kadvati79 Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 Alternately, look her dead in the eyes, and say... "I'm going to kiss you.... here..." (as you put your hand down there). Then do it. Confidence can be very sexy mate! Link to comment
Fisch Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 You could always just inquire about how she might like it if you could "return the favor" because you would "very much enjoy it" and dont forget to remind her of how "amazingly beautiful and sexy" she is to ease her self conscioussness. The trifecta!! Link to comment
InaneCathode Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 I agree, dont ask. Just breath on her down there, she should get the picture pretty fast. Link to comment
doyathink Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 DON'T ASK...That is such a turn off and it brings you out of an intimate moment and back into reality! Link to comment
Fisch Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 I disagree, I think a lot of people make the mistake of not knowing what their partner wants or what they would be comfortable with during sex. What if he just goes for it and she becomes very uncomfortable, I would say that would be a rather large turn off. I am not saying you have to ask DURING sex lol. Then again you can always try and use your instincts, if you have good reason to believe that she would like it then why ask. Link to comment
iamteddybearfeelmecuddle Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 Another vote for don't talk about it, just do it! Link to comment
BrokenWingedFaery Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 Another vote for at least asking first. Link to comment
inspiration Posted August 25, 2006 Author Share Posted August 25, 2006 I only think I should ask because she is still sort of uncomfortable with what my eyes are viewing. I reassure her constantly that she is astonishing... but she continues to be like this. It is sort of cute to me but when faced with situations like these it makes it difficult. Link to comment
NKP Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 When i guy ask it is kind of a turn off, but when he just goes down for it, it really turns me on Link to comment
MacGyverRI Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 Get a bottle of chocolate syrup and make a roadmap down her body, licking it off along the way. Link to comment
kadvati79 Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 Be assertive! Don't ask tell! If you can see from her reaction that she doesn't want you too, then you can ASSERTIVELY bargain out of it without ruining the mood... eg... Look her dead in the eyes... "I am going to kiss you,.... here" (placing hand down there). She shifts uncomfortably "I'm not really into that...." she says. "Well" you say "Then I guess I am going to have to please you in another way...." Cmon guys be assertive! Being assertive is not asking questions, its reading non-verbal cues and changing tact. This person is your PARTNER. You trust them, they trust you. Add a bit of spice by showing your partner how much you like them, how attractive they are, let the animal out in you occasionally. Link to comment
Fisch Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 Ill say it again, its not like I mean you have to ask DURING SEX. You can still be assertive in the way you go about doing it, but if you talk about it at some other time I dont see why you shouldnt avoid making her uncomfortable if you think she may be. Its not porn, not everybody is into the same things even if they seem standard. You can ask subtly if you want or you can barge in, maybe she will like one way maybe another. I guess it all depends on your judgement of her. Link to comment
helpme2 Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 I recomend bringing it up in a casual way and seeing what she says about it, not during sex, but during regular conversation......."you know what I have been wanting to try?" etc. Then during sex just kiss your way down looking at her if she looks uncomfortable start kissing back up.......does that make sense? Link to comment
BurningInside Posted September 2, 2006 Share Posted September 2, 2006 Agreed. Let the passion speak louder than your words... Exactly. This is how I live. Link to comment
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