Saying the Love word; and other relationship communication

[shelbymustang_fan]

So I've been dating a girl for a few months now, and we just became bf/gf. We only see each other about once per week, but we have been getting pretty close lately. I'd just like to know about saying "I love you". I'm very aware that this is a loaded word with deep meaning. I'm new to the whole relationship thing, and I have never been at a point where I felt comfortable saying it. My question is: Is it too soon, and maybe freak a woman out, or am I on fairly safe ground to say it??

 

Also, I'd like for us to communicate more. As I said above, we usually see each other every weekend, and I usually call her a couple of days after we meet on the weekend. Then she usually calls me toward the end of the week to talk, and set up plans for the weekend again. We've basically just alternated who calls the other, and we rarely talk during the mid-week. but I'd like to speak everyday, even if its just a 2 minute call to say hi, hows it goin. Should I tell her this, or just initiate it myself???

 

Thanks yet again!

[laboheme]

As far as the talking, initiate it yourself -- I think it's cute, go for it! If she finds it clingy, she'll let you know (not pick up everyday, etc.)

 

And as far as saying "I love you..." If you don't feel comfortable saying it, it's too soon. I wouldn't worry about when it happens, as long as it happens perfectly naturally...

[Momene]

After a few months, I'd say it's pretty OK to say it.

[shelbymustang_fan]

Also, I'd like for us to communicate more. As I said above, we usually see each other every weekend, and I usually call her a couple of days after we meet on the weekend. Then she usually calls me toward the end of the week to talk, and set up plans for the weekend again. We've basically just alternated who calls the other, and we rarely talk during the mid-week. but I'd like to speak everyday, even if its just a 2 minute call to say hi, hows it goin. Should I tell her this, or just initiate it myself???

 

Thanks yet again!

 

I just read that again, and itmakes it sound like I'm insecure, but I'm not. I don't worry about her forgetting me everyday, And I know she'll always call by weeks end, but I guess I just like to talk. Things would just feel more right, I think.

[Aschleigh]

Don't be affraid to show or communicate your love. It's fine to call mid-week. It's fine to say I love you.

There's not enough love in the world. Add to it.

If she is freaked out by your love, she isn't really into you.

I know as a women, I am always yearning for more communication.

More expressions of feelings. She's probably worried you will be uncomfortable if she moves forward: Communicates more directly, calls more often, says certain things.

Don't be affraid. Be in LOVE , if that's what you are.

[friscodj]

Hey bro-

 

Here is what I think about this:

 

1) I have found for me at least, I resist saying "I love you" until I absolutely can't stand it anymore. You know why? Because then I know it is for real and not just my hormones, infatuation, lust or other reasons other than the love I want that overcomes all these feelings...

 

2) Call her everyday man. There's nothing wrong with that. After a while, if she doesn't start calling you, that might signal a problem but don't worry about that yet, one step at a time...

[kadvati79]

I resist saying "I love you" until I absolutely can't stand it anymore

I absolutely, 100% agree with that statement. I remember the first time my ex told me he loved me. We were in bed, had been about ten minutes, and he started crying. I asked him what was wrong, and he sobbed "I think I love you". I melted into about a million small blobs of GOO!

 

We'd both felt it for a month or so before hand, and would give non-verbal clues to this. For example, on the motorbike I used to squeeze his hands, and he'd squeeze me back. It became our way of saying "I love you" on the motorbike.

 

I've felt "loveish" and thought "I think I love that person" alot, but I have only said it to one person when it reached the point I simply could not hold it in any longer.