office relationships

[baldo]

I really like this girl but the problem is I work with her. I fear rejection at the best of times, but it's worse when you work with the person.

 

I try to have at least one lengthy-ish conversation with her each day, but if I do this too much i risk entering the friends zone. I don't want to take a step back cos i don't wanna be forgotten.

 

I need to find a balance and a subtle way of finding if she has a bf.

 

Any advice? Cheers

[Dating Coach]

You shouldn't worry about trying to find out if she has a boyfriend. That's just another obstacle in the road to the only true question which answers everything. Ask her out on a date. Ask her out for a cup of coffee, to a drink at a quiet bar after work, etc. The more you beat around the bush the worse your chances become. Get straight to the point.

[BornToResist]

I started dating a guy in the office I used to work in. When he started there, he made some friends and they all started going out on Fridays to unwind. They'd go to restaurants, then someone's house, it was completely casual. This turned into a weekly thing, and later on he invited me.

 

It wasn't awkward because there were so many other people from work there, but I was able to really get to know him on a one-on-one basis. We got to know each other a lot and became friends. Then we ended up dating for 2+ years. (Turns out the only reason he ever did this was to get to know me! )

 

Anyways if you have the opportunity to do something like this, I recommend it.