In Limbo

[renaissancewoman101]

Do you guys ever feel like you are just sitting and waiting for something, anything to happen? Feel as though you are bored, nothing is going on, etc? Waiting for life to happen. Trying to fill your days with useless activity, so the days go by, the weeks go by, to what? Who knows. To a life filled with oblivion, depression, loneliness, no friends.

 

When you try to take the bull by its horns and do something, it becomes some meaningless drivel that becomes boring after it is done. Like if you work, it is just an endless cycle of going to a place that is boring, that offers you no challege, that you just DO so you can collect a paycheck. Earn money, remember to put some of that in your 401K, pay off bills, buy food, necessities, spend some money on yourself, etc. When it is all said and done, you are left with facing your own boring self.

 

Must make friends. Hang out with friends. Share a bit, act happy, do things that are fun for the moment, go out, eat out, spend some money, etc. When it is done, life is boring again.

 

Life is a running treadmill that we constantly have to change the background or the speed so we dont get bored.

 

Life is mindless, boring drivel, that only sounds interesting when we are in the process of doing something. When that activity is done, we are left with our own boring, depressing selves.

 

Yeah, I'm a bit depressed today. Going out later and then going up by my mother's. Must do stuff to alleviate this sense of boredom and drivel and depression.

 

Monday, I see a shrink doctor to see if I can get some meds for the anxiety. Hey, maybe that will make me feel better.

 

I dont know how we can spice up life. We only spice it up for a tangible amount of time, then we are left with our boring selves. Yesterday, I went and got a haircut and a partial highlight. That was good. I look good, but it was only a temporary high.

 

How do people keep themselves constantly on a "high" so as not to be bored. Life is a constant running away from oneself.

[rose2summer]

How to keep a constant high, caffeine is a great source, he he, and some exercise to keep the endorphins up. Do nice things for yourself, the highlights is a great idea, I just had some new ones put in, maybe buy some really cute nice clothes for yourself. I think life is full of many happy exciting things if we grab for them. It's so easy to get frustrated, but you seem like such a sweet loving person, find things you enjoy, whether it be pilates, yoga, going to movies, etc, and go full force with it. I have felt like you many times, but we just need to broaden our horizons, to be open to new and exciting things. For example, someone asked me to go jetskiing, and I had never tried it and said no way, but I loved it, it was a blast, because I was speeding everywhere in the lake and knocking my friends off their jetskiis, he he, but you just need to try new things. I am in SD every once in awhile or near that area, maybe we can hang out some time, you have the beach there, everything, downtown, clubs, so much to do, enjoy it.

[Suladan]

"Waiting for life to happen"

 

Life doesn't just happen, you have to work for it

[renaissancewoman101]

I know you have to work at it. Sometimes, I feel life is an endless treadmill to nowhere. We get to our destination, am happy for a short amount of time, and then we get bored. I dont always find life that satisfying.

[Suladan]

Then when you are bored, go and do something to make things interesting!

 

As for life being an endless treadmill to knowhere? It can seem like that. Then I found religion and it has given me purpose in life, not to mention things to do.

[RayKay]

Hmm, I find life is not just one journey, but many journeys.

 

When you reach one goal or destination, you need to create a new one.

 

That way, it's not a long boring treadmill run, but rather a new trail, path, highway, mountain every time.

 

Life is just like a big lump of clay. It won't do anything for you if you just let it sit there...so you need to be an artist and create it into something wonderful.

[bulletproof]

I have felt the way you described from time to time. I am new here, so I don't really know your situation, but do you like your job? It doesn't sound like it is particularly challenging for you. You have to figure, if you are spending 40 hours a week or more in a place that does nothing for you, that can't be so great for your mental health.

 

You also mentioned friends. I agree that they make all the difference. One thing I have learned in my moving from place to place is that I needed to be more open to people. I would eliminate people as potential friends if they weren't exactly like me, and that's pretty limiting! I also had to learn to do the inviting on my own. Waiting for others to do it just wasn't working.

 

It sounds to me like you are at a crossroads in your life where you're not sure exactly what you want your life to be. Maybe it would help to look around and see someone else's life that you particularly admire. What is it about that person that you think is worthy? Try to make your life exactly how you would want it to be, no matter how crazy or difficult taking the steps might be.

[Ash]

I have the rather conflicted feeling that I'm sitting waiting for something to happen while at the same time I'm working my backside off for other people. I'd LOVE to be doing the things I want to do ... but can't seem to get to them. Not the same place you're at exactly. But the effect is the same, I need to actually do things to affect how I live my own life and not let others decide how it is to be lived. That part I think IS the same for us both.

 

You (and I, and all of us really) need to get out there and grab life by the horns and make it go the way we want it to go for US (while at the same time not actually trampling on others!)

[rose2summer]

You (and I, and all of us really) need to get out there and grab life by the horns and make it go the way we want it to go for US (while at the same time not actually trampling on others!)

 

You are more than welcome to trample on all of the ex's who broke people's hearts on these boards. I wouldn't complain!

[agent1607307371]

"and all these days that passed, we did not yet know them to be life"

 

I think being bored is a part of life, otherwise we'd go so fast we wouldn't be able to recognise any of it.

 

I think a consistent boredom is a sign that the things we have in our life aren't actually "us" and aren't meeting our needs.

 

After years of promising myself I'd do it, I finally allowed myself to buy a bass guitar and take lessons. In the greater scheme, it's a small thing but the joy and satisfaction I'm already getting from this are spreading to the other parts of my life.

 

I smile more, and laugh and all I did, literally, was buy an instrument and make a small time investment. (An hour a day? - thats a crappy soap opera I'd otherwise watch.)