Does low self esteem still shine through?

[ty99]

Just wondering if being to shy around a girl or if you have semi-low self esteem in the ladies department from past experience and shakey self confidence... does that show through even if you don't think it does?

 

I am outgoing and funny, etc around girls, but underneeth i am always nervous and second guessing everything i do. They must be picking up on this somehow?

[AnotherBrokenDoll]

lolz Thats very possible! I know i can see straight through a guy who is really self conscious underneath but i like it! It makes me want more and i want to see who the person is behind all the "confidence"!

[heloladies21]

Probably, but fake it till you make it. Try to notice anything that you do non-verbally that might come accross and tip her off ie. nervous movements like rocking, eye contact, posture. Things like voice tone, projection, pacing of words. All these things are ultra important, more so than what you say often times.

[Dating Coach]

Yes, I believe there is a good chance that it does, but as heloladies says, you should still try to fake confidence as much as you can. Not only will you lessen the level of low self esteem that you exude, but you also get more practice. Keep trying.

[librarychick]

The more you "fake-it" the more likely it is that one day you'll start to believe it yourself. I do notice guys who fake self-confidence, but that's because I did it myself for so long. But I just kept acting like I had the confidence and one day I started to believe myself.

[DN]

Actually, people only know you are faking it if you don't do it successfully. If you do fake it successfully - how could they know?

[Cyndane]

I'm with everyone else here - fake it till you can make it! Although I have noticed that some guys over do it and come off a little too confident it borders on arrogance sometimes (I guess they didn't fake it successfully).

[Carnatic]

Actually I think I'm quite similar to you ty99... I'm sociable and outgoing, especially with friends but I also have no problems flirting with girls... but underneath I am insecure and have low self esteem... I think this does come through, becuase I'm unsucessful with girls, I always chicken out of actually making a move, girl do seem to behave towards me as though i'm just being friendly or something, as opposed to seeing me as a serious option.

I would say that yes, if you can be outwardly confident, or fake it, then you do feel more confident in yourself you start to improve your self esteem.