shes2smart Posted October 27, 2006 Author Share Posted October 27, 2006 Ok, Then, I'll Just Do Everything It's a long, involved, drama-filled story which I will shorten to its main points. Husband's ex wife got their house in the divorce. Neither had money to refinance in her name only, so we knew at some point, this was going to have to be dealt with, since his name is still on the mortgage loan and the deed. Yesterday was the day. Got a letter from the mortgage lender. Seems his ex hasn't made house payments for some time and the bank can't find her...but they managed to track down my hubby. Hubby calls child support, figuring they will know where she is. They have an addy, but will not give it to him without something from the bank. Even then, they will not give out the addy...they will contact her on the bank's behalf, then she has 30 days to respond (or not). Well, we don't have that kinda time. The mortgage hasn't been paid in quite some time and the bank is a little antsy to get the matter settled. They don't really care about what the divorce decree says...his name's on the loan. (Although the person at the bank was very sympathetic when she realized that he had no idea any of this was going on) But the fact is, they'd like some money....and they really don't care whose pocket it comes out of and his name is on the loan. So, I get online and I start digging. Within 5 minutes I find a phone number and address for her...and she's several states away from the last place we knew she was living. Huh? How do you just pick up and move and leave these loose ends behind? Seriously...do you figure if you don't give the bank a forwarding addy that they'll just let it go? Or do you figure they'll go after your ex and he'll pay for your mess (again......)? I don't understand the thought process that goes behind these actions. Maybe it's a bad assumption that there IS a thought process in the first place. Perhaps that's where I'm going wrong. I just can't conceive of not keeping track of your financial life. After I tracked down some current contact info for his ex, my husband looked at me and said, "Thank you for not being psycho." Not bad for 5 minutes work. Link to comment
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