A survey

[hennypenny3288]

If you were in a "relationship" and your SO starts to lose interest in you and begins to pull away, how would you deal with it? Would any of you try to guilt the SO into staying with you? Why or why not? Could guilting someone to stay with you be a form of trying to repair the relationship or glue it back together?

[PRSOV]

What's the point of trying to make the other feel guilty? it isn't as if they have done something wrong, is it?

 

Feelings are changing all the time, especially during relationships... We don't have any control over this, it just happens. So no, I wouldn't try and make them feel guilty.

 

Guilt tripping is only prolonging what is going to happen in the future anyway, so I guess if they don't want to be together then that is just what you have to accept and move on. I would never see this as the solution to "fixing" or "repairing" a relationship because the S/O obviously doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore, it's a fair call.

 

There are better ways about repairing a relationship.

 

I think it's how they go about their feelings at the end of the day.

 

PR

[Beyondthesea]

If it's a man, pulling away is a normal thing. You just go about your daily routine and literally ignore them. That works every time. It's so stupid it actually works.

[annie24]

I agree with beyondthesea. giving them a little extra space can sometimes bring them back.

 

but not always.

 

If you were in a "relationship" and your SO starts to lose interest in you and begins to pull away, how would you deal with it? Would any of you try to guilt the SO into staying with you? Why or why not? Could guilting someone to stay with you be a form of trying to repair the relationship or glue it back together?

 

why is "relationship" in quotation marks? how long have you guys been dating? are you exclusive?

 

and why would you want to guilt someone into staying with you?

[DN]

If it works at all guilt only works temporarily and then it turns to resentment.

 

As Annie says, pulling away may work but not always.

 

Talking about relationship issues often helps - it may lead to a break-up but at least you have a chance of knowing why.

[Confessoress]

If it's a man, pulling away is a normal thing. You just go about your daily routine and literally ignore them. That works every time. It's so stupid it actually works.

 

Agreed. In my experience if you pull away yourself and let him chase you AND he comes back, then he obviously wants the relationship. If he doesn't... well you know the answer. Prolonging the relationship is pointless if it's just delaying the envitable.

[Momene]

Having been married for 17 years, there's been a lot of pulling away and pulling back together initiated by both sides. I think it's inevitable over a long term relationship but it isn't always very pleasant. I'm feeling a bit left out and neglected myself at the moment.