Blinking101 Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 My girlfriend is complaining to me that I say "I love you" too much. She complains about every thing I do. And I am getting really sick and tired of it. She says I am wearing out the word. You can't wear out a word or a sign of emotion. I don't know can you? And I am getting sick and tired of her complaining about every little thing I do wrong. I wonder if I do anything right in her eyes. It's really starting to make me really mad. And when I complain about something she does wrong. I get chewed out by her. What is up with that? Any idea's or advice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iceman26 Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 You deal with someone like this by dumping them and not looking back. I've dated more than one woman like this, and it never gets better pal. Why deal with someone this petty, trivial and mean when there are women out there who would love to hear you tell them you love them? Life is too short to put up with this crap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blinking101 Posted July 13, 2006 Author Share Posted July 13, 2006 I know. But she say's she loves me and wants to be with me forever. But I can't stand her complaining all the time. I really want to know what she is proud of me of doing or what I do right in her eyes. My dad's got cancer and I don't feel like having more stress on my back with her complaining all the time. And when she is with friends she is not very nice to me. And when it's just me and her she is really nice. What is up with that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iceman26 Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 She can tell you she loves you all she wants, but does she prove it to you? Have you asked her why she continually criticizes you? When I have reflected on past relationships I have found in the girls that I dated that were like this that the criticism they gave to me was the cause of something wrong with them, and not myself. However, there was nothing I could do to change this, so I moved on. My deepest regret was staying in those relationships as long as I did. You can't change other people, you can only change yourself. You know what I mean? I am sorry to hear about your Dad, I hope he gets better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iceman26 Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 And when she is with friends she is not very nice to me. And when it's just me and her she is really nice. What is up with that? Whats up with that is that your girl has some issues, and they have nothing to do with you. Do you know where they might come from? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yeawutever Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 She says she loves you, yet she'as not showing you by her complains. Remember actions spaek louder than words. Nothing wrong with being affectionated and saying the word more than once, if she doesn't like it then it's her loss, you might as well not put up it anymore. I would be already dumping someone who didn't appreciate me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueangel Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 Life is too short to put up with this crap. That's right. You need to keep your options open and move into them slow when you find a new oppertunity that awaits. There ARE so many who are LOOKING to appreciate someone... who can love completely. Once on TV, I watched about these men and women who visited and fell in love with people they met in prison. When it was asked why the people in prison would be appealing to someone, the first answers were of course because of confidence, something different, toughness... or even a gentleness that needed healed to be whole. But the most revealing answer I felt was one professional therapist who said, "These are men and women who aren't emotionally equipped to continue what would be 'normal' day to day relationships. But as long as they are getting their needs met, who can judge them?" I don't know if that's true or not for some cases but I think your ability to let live and the love life you are in go hand in hand. What things do you let yourself love day to day? Do you love yourself healthily enough? Are you loving someone in a cage- if so, is it you or she or both? No matter how you love what you have or moments of it, ask yourself this: Are you getting your needs met? If you find it is "No", then you are ready to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rnorth Posted July 13, 2006 Share Posted July 13, 2006 Here are my ideas. 1. Stop telling her that you love her for awhile. 2. Stop being so available all of the time. Spend some more time with your buddies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yeawutever Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 Yea, does seems like she has quite some issues with expressing emotions, maybe that could be it. If not, then how about trying nto to say those words as much as you're saying it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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